Tell me about the party scene!

<p>As a girl going to college for the first time, I have some questions about partying. I'm not a big partier and I don't really drink, but I'd like to go out and have fun once in a while. I know the party scene is very different among different schools, but do you have any must-know party tips?</p>

<p>Here are some specific questions (keep in mind that I'm a girl and all parties are off campus):</p>

<p>-As a girl wearing a dress or skirt, where you do keep your phone?
-When do parties really "start?" I'd hate to show up and be the first one there.
-Where you you put coats or jackets?
-Do most people end up leaving "with" someone, or do people generally go and leave in groups of friends?
-Is it easy to get into a frat party if I don't join a sorority?
-As a freshman, how do I find out which parties are the "good" parties?
-Is there generally a lot of pressure to drink?
-Do girls generally wear heels all night (ow!) or do they wear flats/flip flops? (this is probably personal preference).
-Can I dance with guy friends or does dancing generally mean something "more?"</p>

<p>Thanks!</p>

<p>1) Most girls put it in their bra or purse
2) Most people start pregames at around 10ish and then go to parties at around 11-11:30. It depends on the event though.
3) It depends if they were seeking a hookup or not. It also depends on the type of party. At a house party where everyone knows everyone else, hookups are less common. Most people stick with their friends.
4) It depends on how open frat parties are. At the beginning of the year, they’re usually open to everyone, but when pledging starts they may be invite only. Tbh, most people think frat parties are overrated.
5) You probably won’t find out until you start meeting upperclassmen. That’s why so many freshmen go to frat parties. Those are the only ones they can get into/know about.
6) It depends. At a frat party, it’s considered slightly unusual if you’re not drunk (and IMO it’s the only way to have fun at one of them) although at other parties there’s no pressure. If someone is pressuring you or actively questioning your decision, they’re not worth your time.
7) I wear flats although I know some girls that wear heels at all times. Most end up taking them off after the frat party and stumble barefoot to their dorms/ the local drunk food place.
8) You can dance with a guy friend, although at some parties there seems to be more pressure to hook up. It depends on the guy, the situation, etc. You’ll see a lot more grinding at an open frat party than say, the Salsa dancing club’s party.</p>

<p>1)lo mismo
2)whatever times you get, as a general rule be fashionably late. Depends on the event, but at black parties, for instance, plan to be an hour or even two late (seriously, haha). (there’s almost always a coat area, and things are generally safe there. If not, find your own isolated cranny somewhere you’ll remember)
3)lo mismo tambien, but always remember you can leave whenever you want dammit. Hmm… and don’t leave your friends without telling them.
4)girls can pretty much get into any party (slightly troublesome, except that girls tend to be better company, anyways), but as above keep in mind pledging time. Ask whoever told you—
5)Parties are different everywhere, and such a matter of opinion. I wouldn’t put one party over another for this reason, and also just because I’m not fond of knocking others’ styles… You’ll get a sense of where you like being after only a few times. Stay open minded though; that’s how I’ve met the coolest people
6)Be happy and open but never let anyone, as above, pressure or actively question your whims. Curiosity is one thing, but you’ll know if it’s a red flag and if it is, heed it.
7)Probably less than half on average. All the women I know who wear heels are eventually carrying them and wincing. There may be times where you’ll have fun events with formal and semi dress; go ahead and wear them! But at a basic partay, you may regret it and may slip on some spilled beer or godknows.
I’ve seen friends bring alternative pairs for later at night, as well.
8)Yes to “guy friends”, but usually if you start dancing with a rando he will get the wrong impression at least a little. This is not your fault, and you can usually have fun and be comfortable walking away for a break; just once in a while you might have to endure their smoldering stares or gross comeons, more so if the dancing gets a little raunchy.</p>