<p>I just joined CC, but have been reading it for a while! I was wondering HOW and when I should tell my friends and people at my school that I am going to boarding school. I definitely want to do it in person and before the school year is over. I have never heard of any people in my town going to boarding school... What has been the experience of people currently at BS after telling people?</p>
<p>I suggest you don’t tell them until you get into one. It won’t be fun telling them you didn’t get it, now will it?</p>
<p>Oh, sorry! I should have mentioned that I was accepted at and am going to Hotchkiss.</p>
<p>Oh, gratz! I just told my friends and they were like “WOW, congratz and good luck”</p>
<p>Just say that you’ll be leaving. Do it sooner than later. See, I go to a private school where it’s pretty common to go the boarding school, so it’s not too hard, but just do it. There was an earlier thread about this, and the people either changed their Facebook status to say something or just told their friends straight up.</p>
<p>I have the same problem! I’ve told a couple of my closest friends, but none of my other friends (they aren’t friends with the people I told) know…or any of my other classmates. The later it gets, the harder. Like you, no one in my school goes to boarding school. Private school at most. My close friends are okay with it though - that’s why I was comfortable telling them. However, initially they felt bad for me because they didn’t really understand what kind of boarding school I went to, and they though my parents forced me to apply. If boarding school is common in your area, I would expect that too. However, after an explanation they are very supportive of me, though understandably sad. </p>
<p>What I’m worried about is how my other friends will respond…they are a little less…understanding. I know they will blurt it out to the general public first thing as well.</p>
<p>Yeah I will probably tell my best friend first and then kind of go forward from there… I am thinking maybe some time next week. The reason I didn’t tell anyone from school I was even applying is because I didn’t want to be treated any differently during the school year (and of course the potential embarrassment of having to explain I didn’t get in anywhere). But I don’t want to spring it on them right before school ends, so I am thinking toward the beginning of May. Knowing people at my school, they will prob think I am either a rich snob or a delinquint… But I don’t really care what they say, I’m so excited for next year! :)</p>
<p>Yay, another Hotchkiss person! (I’m entering 9th grade, what about you?)</p>
<p>It’s not that bad, just tell them you’re leaving and that you’ll come back to visit often. I’m sure you’ll stay in touch with your friends through the internet, and maybe even see your friends again in the future =)</p>
<p>But make sure you thank your teachers, because they’re the ones who really don’t want to see you leave.</p>
<p>Thanks Vivsters! I’m glad your mom is letting you go! I will be a new 10th grader, but I’m sure I will still see you around. 
That is also part of the problem, because most kids have already left for private school in 8th grade, so it is assumed you are staying after that.</p>
<p>But I am sure I am making this out to be a bigger deal than it is. I think they will understand, and I will be coming back pretty often to see my parents and brother. And of course we are all addicted to facebook!</p>
<p>Haha whoops, posted from my sisters account :)</p>
<p>I wasn’t positive if I was definately going to go to boarding school, because I only applied a few places. So I only told my two best friends and the other three people applying to boarding school that I was. Unfortunately those three people told a lot of my other friends. But, when it was finally March 10th everyone at school was talking about where people go in. I talked about it in my math class (we only have 6 people and have gotten close over the last 5 years) so after that everyone knew. I’d suggest telling one or two people at a time, that way it will spread on its own and people can confront you about it. Also that gives everyone time to adjust by themselves, instead if you told everyone at once, like on Facebook. My friends will miss me and I’ll miss my two best friends (other than that…I dont think many of these relationships will last), but they are proud of me and supported me during the admission process. I’m lucky I’m only 40 mins away from my school, so I can promise them that they can visit, although one’s a guy…idk how that’d work :(</p>
<p>Well I had already gotten into a great high school locally which most all of my friends got into…and it isn’t uncommon in my school for at least 3 or 4 kids to apply to boarding schools each year (3 this year) and the three of us talked about it all the time. We talked each other through the process. As well, our friends who weren’t applying were very supportive; they even remembered about the dreadful March 10th and through us a breakfast party when we got to school! So for the record, I think that it’s better to tell them from the beginning. If they are really your friends…they’ll accept you even if you don’t get in. And if you don’t tell them in the beginning, don’t wait too late to tell them.
I will be attending DA as a 9th grader…any others?</p>
<p>I recommend telling your closest friends in person. Then, after that, maybe update your Facebook status to say that you’ll be leaving.</p>
<p>I wish I could’ve changed the way I went about it. I told friends that I was applying, and they told their friends. Soon enough, everyone knew, and March 10th was the most stressful school day EVER because of it. Hahaha oh well.</p>
<p>But yeah, make sure you’re sensitive to your friends’ feelings. After all, imagine if your best friend was leaving for another school and you found out secondhand!</p>
<p>Haha I’m in the completely opposite situation. I was very naive and didn’t think about the consequences in the beginning of the year, and already told everyone I would be leaving the next year. Not a smart move, considering I will not be leaving as I was waitlisted at five schools and rejected at one. Now my problem is how to tell people I’m staying, without them criticizing me for not getting into one while two of my classmates who also applied did get in. </p>
<p>Anyway, congratulations on your acceptance, laxgirl21, and good luck telling everyone, as I’m sure you’ll be missed. :)</p>