<p>How/when did you tell your parents you wanted to transfer? Did they mostly understand?</p>
<p>I want to transfer because I've finally figured out what I want to major in (nursing) and I can't do it at my current college. The college in my hometown has a really good and relatively cheap program in nursing, but as someone who went through a lot of potential majors my senior year of high school and this semester, I'm afraid my parents will see it as me just being indecisive yet again. And I'd be giving up a lot of scholarship money (though the new school would be cheaper still).</p>
<p>Any advice on how to tell them I want to transfer and on how to show them that this isn't just me being flaky? I mean I could explain to them how I've spent a lot of time volunteering at the hospital this semester, talked to nurses/nursing students, etc., but they're panicky and will probably freak before I get that far.</p>
<p>“Mom and Dad, after volunteering at the hospital so much this semester, I’ve decided that I’d like to study nursing. Since CollegeA has a good program, and is even less expensive than where I’m studying now, transferring there would be my first choice. I need to decide which semester I should apply for transfer for, and which other colleges and universities I should include on my application list. Can you help me with that?”</p>
<p>That part’s easy, the hard part is making them see that I’m not throwing away a scholarship at a good school (much better than the one I’d be transferring to) for my latest major of the month. They both work in fields completely different from their degree and don’t really understand all the fuss about majors, where as I know I want to work in healthcare so it’s important to me that I pick a major that will get me there.</p>
<p>In the end, I know they will come around, it will just be some drama until we all get on the same page.</p>
<p>Mostly I just wanted to hear about how other transfer students told their parents. I know most probably had been telling their parents they hated their school or whatever for a while, but is there anyone who just completely shocked their parentals?</p>
<p>I don’t see why it matters what they think unless they are forcing you into a degree. Since they are obviously not paying for most of your expenses, take the loans out yourself to pay for the nursing education?</p>
<p>When I was growing up, my father said to me, “I’m not paying for you to live in my house or get a college education because I’m not getting anything in return.”</p>
<p>He ended up kicking me out at 16 years old when I held a full-time job. How lovely is that? It taught me to make my own decisions and take responsibility for my future. </p>
<p>I couldn’t be happier. As of right now, I’m 19 and I work at a nuclear power plant making 40k without my associates degree. (Almost completed)</p>
<p>You don’t need your parents approval for the career you like. Please yourself but take your parent’s suggestions to the heart. They’ve been through it but its your future and make it how you please. You have to learn one way!</p>
<p>Well, from the sounds of it it’s possible your parents may think it’s you being flaky because you’ve been flaky in the past? That would indeed make it hard.</p>
<p>I’m also wondering, given your user name, if your parents were hoping to see you go to med school so becoming a nurse may be at the heart of the problem you foresee here. True?</p>
<p>They think I’ve been flaky because I took the “pre-meds can major in anything” thing a little too close to heart and have been “exploring” lots of major to try to find out what would be the best for med school. They never really got that and thought every time I’d mention a major other than biology it meant I didn’t want to go to med school anymore and I wanted to be an anthropologist, historian, journalist, etc. instead. I think they’ll mostly be disappointed that I’m leaving the better school for one that has a poor reputation anywhere outside of nursing and allied health fields.</p>
<p>I just hear so many stories about how students had been complaining for months before they decided to transfer and not so many about how parents were caught completely by surprise. Just looking for some of those.</p>