<p>I believe that at my D's school there is always a choice of parties, and at least 3 nights a week. As I walked around the row of frat meeting houses I saw evidence on the "patio" of the previous night's libations. It can't be a secret if I can find it. D says that the drinking gets out of control but there are at least some safeguards (some more effective than others) in place with bus monitors (off campus parties can't be driven to or from), and a wink and nod armband system. Not that pretty a picture and my biggest negative about a fine school. </p>
<p>D feels she is in a distinct minority of kiids who do go the parties and dances and just don't drink. Parties are club or frat or sorority or team driven. Nothing outwardly outlandish like sex/nudity themed parties, although it is a given that is the end result for some party goers. It does not please her that "Hey. I was wasted." is considered an excuse for poor or boorish behavior, so she usually leaves when the folks get to that point , that is if she is not on bus duty. </p>
<p>I get the impression that most of these parties are very large , over a 100 participants and often more. According to D , this is par among the experiences of her friends attending different schools.</p>