<p>Here is the reality of the situation, as I see it Those families who are making $200K or so, are all almost certainly going to have kids going to college right out of highschool. Just the way it is. Such families tend to live in certain neigborhoods. enjoy certain amenities and have certain expectations. SInce most people around them, earn about what they do, or more, maybe a bit less, they get the idea that they are “middle class”. Their idea of who has a lot of money and who does not puts them right square in the middle fo things.</p>
<p>The fact is, that as you make more money, you do tend to spend, it and the things that are important in raising a family, mean spending it on things like neighborhood, schools, home, amenities. ECs for the kids, cultural things, good quality things. The problem is that you get used to those things and it hurts to cut back. Also, it’s not that easy to divest oneself from some of these trappings. You bought a house 15 years ago, now may not be the time to sell it. Getting a mortgage for another house may not be so easy to do. Things like homes are not easy to get rid of. You’re better of just blowing the money on junk and sprees, because you can stop that cold turkey. Lots of work and uprfront money to get yourself out of a house and downscale to a less expensive one, and if there are other kids involved and schools, it’s even more complicated.</p>
<p>So in all of this, a lot of folks kind of stuck college in the back of their minds, saying there is not way they could save for it anyways, and their kids were just going to have to pay for it themselves or get scholarships. When the time comes, when you are in the crowd with kids who are applying to sleepaway colleges and the expectation is that they are going to be able to go away to school, go to a private school, when the money is not there to do so, it’s an issue.</p>
<p>To rub salt into the wounds, when you live in these circles, there are certain to be some kids whose parents are not doing so well financially, but the kids are in the same schools, and some of these kids might just be material to get accepted to schools that meet most need. So the kids of those who did not do as well as you did financially are getting the money to go to the colleges you can’t afford to send your own kid. Hurts.</p>