@linnylou As @actorparent1 mentioned, my D is in a similar place so I feel your pain. While my D still has a bunch of pending applications, we also do not have a single BFA acceptance, despite 31 applications of one sort or another. D has two BA acceptances (from schools that she applied to for BFA MT but was instead accepted into BA) but really does not want either of them.
My D submitted 13 MT prescreens and only passed two. She auditioned for these two and has already been rejected by one. The other one sends out decisions next week but I am not optimistic. Of the remaining 11 prescreen schools, 4 outright said NO and 7 said no but redirected her to BFA Acting. So that added another 7 possible BFA programs. One of these has since said no. So, out of these 20 BFA prescreen applications, we have 13 no’s (11 prescreen rejections, 1 no after MT audition, 1 no after acting audition) and 7 with no word yet.
For non-prescreen schools, after adding a number of schools late (on the wonderful advice of CC folks) we did 11 schools. We have had 2 no’s on these and no word from the other 9.
So, in short, my D has more open applications (16) than your D does 2). This is largely because she was willing to apply to a handful of BA programs (more below), do the BFA Acting redirects, and take suggestions from CC about adding some late applications (via walk-ins or digital auditions). I am hoping that one or two of these come through (though with 15 no’s and 0 yes’s (she does not count the two BA programs to which she did not even apply) there is no particular reason to be optimistic). Mainly, these extra options have helped me to feel as if we did everything we could do within the parameters of our resources this year and also that I have scaled much of this steep learning curve so that, if we have to do this again, I am so much better prepared (as is my D).
So, if you are still reading this way-too-long post, here are a couple of unsolicited suggestions from my own yucky experience. First, ASAP try to submit a handful of digital auditions (or even live auditions) at schools with late dates (see all the posts sent to me for some great suggestions, especially if your D is more open geographically open than mine is!) We just submitted two more applications last week so it truly is not too late.
Next, if you can convince your D to take a gap year:
- Did your D get any redirects to BFA Acting programs? My D did all 7 redirect auditions. My D really wants MT but has come to a place where she will consider a BFA Acting–at least at certain schools. If things do not work out this year, next year I think she will apply directly to some BF Acting programs (beside the ones she redirected into this year). Perhaps you can pass this by your D (when she is calmer)? It would still be a BFA program (not BA).
- My D was willing to apply directly to four BA programs that are pretty performance-oriented and are at schools that do not also have BFAs: American, Wagner, Muhlenberg, and Northwestern. I am hoping that one of these comes through (notifications coming out in March) but, again, if we do this again, I am going to add more schools in this category to her list at least in part because the admission decision is based on academics to a greater extent than at the BFA programs and my D (like yours) has academic strength. Maybe you can get someone in the field who your D respects to show her that not all BA programs are the same?
- I don’t know how much time your D spent on prescreens but my D spent a ton so I am going to add more non-prescreen schools to my D’s list since, besides thinking that she is better in-person and demonstrating that she can take direction, it will allow my D time in the fall to be less focused on prescreens and more focused on other audition preparation.
- I know you said you went to Unifieds (NYC I think?) Did your D do any walk-ins? My D found some very appealing (and somewhat less competitive) extra options through walk-ins so I am going to take her back to Chicago Unifieds and try to do more walk-ins.
I know that none of this helps with your heartache right now. It sucks to see your child in such pain and to feel (and be) utterly helpless to alleviate that pain. On that front, I have absolutely no advice. I just keep thinking that if I make a new and better game plan that when she is ready I can serve her better next year. Of course, I am not at all sure that there will be a next year but, as you say, if our Ds come round to doing a more traditional application process, we already know how to do that! Hang in there and don’t completely give up hope. You still have two open applications and the option of throwing a couple of more out there and, as others have said, she only needs one yes.