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<blockquote> <p>It's not comfortable always needing to be "the best" though great achievements may come from it. >></p> </blockquote>
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<p>I think one great aspect of my S's personality is that he is not competitive--he does not have to be the best, if, by that, it means "better than others"-- nor is he a perfectionist. I've known kids who spent days polishing a first draft, impervious to parental pleas to take it easier and to teachers' reminders that it was after all a first draft. So I've been able to tell him he needs to do the best HE can do without fear that he'll stay up until all hours. The fact remains that, in order for him to do the best he can and to be happy, he has to be challenged and engaged.</p>