<p>Sac:</p>
<p>I did not think your S fitted the stereotype of the competitive kid, either. I do think that if your child is driven to excel in something, it's easier on everyone if that child is not a perfectionist. One such kid was deliberately held back by her parents who insisted on her doing a gap year because they were concerned she was pushing herself too hard (she was also the one doing 3 drafts of first drafts). So what did she do? audited four college courses and did all the work!</p>