<p>So, what do you guys/gals think about arranged marriage and are you gonna get one? Man, I’m so not getting an arranged marriage…the american culture has made me evade it. But I think I will inquire what my parents think of “that girl for me.”</p>
<p>Haha I’m Telugu…south Indians rock! ^ my parents are surprisingly lenient with the marriage thing, and they said I could marry any girl (as long as she’s brown lol)</p>
<p>Lol, I am COMPLETELY against arranged marriages of all forms. So is my sister, which is a good thing because she kind of sets the standards for me, LOL. I think she’ll end up marrying a brown guy anyway instead. </p>
<p>My parents are totally traditional though. They think it’s pointless for us to find our own partners. I don’t even know. But I think they’re slowly starting to realize that neither of us would ever in a million years agree to an arranged marriage. Even though I’m pretty sure my mom has already worked out details for me to marry one of our family friends. But no. Just no.</p>
<p>Yeah, my parents are all for the arranged marriage too. I think it’s weird when you hear parents talking about their children’s marital futures when their kids are like, six.</p>
<p>I’m against it. My hope is to find someone at college <em>crosses fingers</em> but we don’t really have arranged marriages in our family anyways. My cousin who got married last year met his wife through some mutual friends of his parents. They got to really get to know each other for months and then made a decision from there. Either person was free to say if they didn’t like the other person and then everyone would drop it and move on. I guess I wouldn’t mind that. But I really hope I find someone at college!</p>
<p>Haha family friends are the worst! Before we moved states, my mom always had her eye on my friend’s brother -_- not that he wasn’t good looking or anything, but it was just annoying. Lol.</p>
<p>It’s insane how they mapped out our lives are. The moment I mention the name of a guy, my parents freak out. However, if it’s an Indian name, they get way too excited.</p>
<p>Hey, sorry for being late to the thread. Fellow Desi of Punjabi descent, but my family is currently from the New Delhi area. My parents hold typical Desi jobs (father is an engineer, mother is an occupational therapist), but they themselves aren’t like typical Indian immigrants thankfully. No arranged marriage talk, no incessant chastising (only when necessary), so I consider myself relatively lucky. I also frequent Devon since I live right outside Chicago!</p>
<p>Haha! The guy my mom wants seems good on paper (he goes to UPenn, fairly good-looking, polite) but if only she went on his facebook…he’s atheist and he drinks and he’s kind of a jerk lol! Oh my goodness, brown parents.
My parents never really told me “no dating” I guess they just assumed I knew not to.</p>
<p>I’m Punjabi… Here is some observations I have made from my neck of the woods…
-All other Indian kids I know play tennis… Literally all of them. Ever heard of an Indian football player? I thought so hahahha.
-Most Aunties & Uncles are doctors with the occasional Businessman, Engineer, and Lawyer thrown in for good measure
-The college process traditionally starts in first grade… Do well in elementary school… get into selective private/public middle school… get into selective private/public high school (Val or bust) … Ivy… Med School.
-Every college age Indian kid I know is a premed.
- Never known an Indian person who owns an American car… Kind of weird actually, its always a Honda or a Benz.
- Summer = Unnecessary time of, but reserved for working ahead for next year.
- Brown Parties- Super embarrassing that my parents have a far more active social life than I do.</p>
<p>Ivygolfer-i’ve met some desi econ majors and engineering majors who aren’t premed. Surprise, surprise! Also, thanks for the welcome debate!</p>
<p>haha… reading this desi thread. what kinda schools do u guys go to? cause at my school…there are like 15 indian guys and we definitely don’t fit the “typical” indian stereotype. We play basketball, rip our textbooks in half and throw 'em to the ground, and chill. -_- my indianess made me really smart but I kinda hate it some times. SO MANY EXPECTATIONS gahhhhhhhhhhh.</p>
<p>I have a question you guys. I went through stupid live above the influence crap where I didn’t decide to cheat with my classmates when I should’ve cuz my teachers were crappy even though all my classes are honors and AP. so I’ve managed to get 3 Fails and a D with a 2.6 cumulative gpa. Next year I’m taking more APs and if I do really well next year (junior) if I get a 4.5 both semesters(impossible to do) I can have a 4.0 cumulative gpa. Will that give me any hope ? I’m making up the Ds and fails btw . I wish I cheated :/.</p>
<p>@ sillycereal hahaha! I know what you mean! They tell me I’m huge and that it’ll be really hard to find me a husband, but I’m only 5’4!</p>
<p>Haha lurker here. ivygolfer I’m Gujarati. Been playing football for seven years n hoping to make club football. parents own an escalade. going to Cornell next year to major in hotel administration (stereotypical a bit), n I don’t believe that I’ll get an arranged marriage. I’ve unintentionally broken the stereotypes :)</p>
<p>Chewbacci, obviously your plan, should you succeed it, will give you better chances. Make sure to do this for senior year too. You’re probably gonna cheat, so try not too, you don’t wanna take the chances of getting caught.</p>
<p>Bengali reporting in.</p>
<p>Do any of you write stories on Wattpad?</p>
<p>Wow, most of your parents seem really lenient when it comes to marriage. My parents have already told me twice that they’re going to pick who I’m going to marry, then they precede to tell me a story of how someone’s son or daughter have shamed their family by marrying outside of their caste. So their basic requirements for a guy are Punjabi(culture)->Jatt(caste)->Sikh(religion). Even though I think my parents can be kind of ridiculous sometimes, I’ll still probably litsen to them. -.-</p>
<p>@jsk4ever Yeah, you’re kind of short but I actually am kind of tall I guess… 5’11.</p>