<p>Currently women outnumber men in college and grad school. Thirty years ago the opposite was true, and men bent over backwards to attract the few available college educated women. (Smart was sexy even then.) Now men are in the minority and therefore in the driver’s seat. This is not to suggest that Princeton men are demanding that women take a subordinate role. I’m sure that few have given it any thought. Given the numbers though educated women in general are working harder to attract the available men. Not running for higher office or a Rhodes scholarship may be the Princeton equivalent of a short skirt at another school. Not that being noncompetitive will get you noticed in a positive way, but being assertive may be just enough of a negative to take you out of the running.</p>