Three-Months In: A Really Bad Experience

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<p>Hey guys, me again.</p>

<p>Here's the deal: I'm just so angry with myself. My grades are average, maybe below average, and WAY below my standards. I have no real social life at my school-- no people to hang out with. (I'm literally riding the bus for an hour to the movie theater next weekend to watch a movie-- alone. That's my "fun" for the week.) I've been wasting time fretting and sitting in my dorm doing nothing, and my overall outlook is bleak. Hard to get up some mornings.</p>

<p>Its been the story of the last few months (maybe the whole year) really... And I know it's not all bad, I mean there are people fighting cancer or curing it, or running businesses, or even just working and getting internships and being friendly, all while managing tougher class schedules. That's why it's so frustrating. I like to think I have the potential, but I've wasted so much of it and just continue to do so. I've completely lost a step--just absolutely failed myself. Everyone else seems to accomplish more by working less, maybe I'm past my prime already...</p>

<p>Is it because I'm spoiled? Serious question. I'm at least partly here on my parents' charity. Is dropping out a real option? I just feel that I have no plan. If I did drop out, I'd have no direction...</p>

<p>I guess this post is just a late night cry in the dark for kindred spirits. It just helps me to know I'm not alone. But does anyone have any advice? What can I do? I know I can work hard but I haven't been getting the results I want. :(</p>

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<p>I bet I have fewer friends than you! Surely you can find SOMEONE to go see a movie with. You really shouldn’t see a movie by yourself; I always do that and one time people I knew saw me at the theater and they looked at me like I just arrived from some concentration camp.</p>

<p>And as much as you can help it, don’t compare yourself to other people. I remember some psychologist I was reading said that the quickest way to get depressed is to compare yourself with others. Maybe if you could just block out all that personal angst for an hour or two, work like a robot, and then get back to thinking about the personal issues that would work for a little while. What’s your ultimate life goal, anyways? Maybe looking at that would help clear things up a bit.</p>

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<p>dude you guys need to put yourselves out there, join a club or something, because friends aren’t going to come to you</p>

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<p>“And I know it’s not all bad, I mean there are people fighting cancer or curing it, or running businesses”</p>

<p>How does fighting cancer or running a business compare?</p>

<p>Anyways, here’s the secret if you want to enhance your social life → network. Have a genuine conversation with 10 new people everyday, or your life won’t change.</p>

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<p>start with 1 person and work your way up exponentially</p>