So, I had a pretty rough freshman year. Aside from making literally no friends, I suffered from a pretty tough year depression wise (due to how unhappy I was). A lot of the ‘no friends’ thing is cuz I didn’t really leave my dorm, went home every weekend, and I realized how much I hated the school/ location in October.
Of course next year I’m going to work harder at putting myself out there but it’s still really scary knowing I failed already once before. Does anyone have any tips on making friends as a transfer? I’ll be going to a small private school closer to home with much better academics so I’m really excited but wicked nervous too. Thank you!
Honestly, just put yourself out there! It sounds cliche, but that is the only way to make friends. Connect with people at orientation and sign up for clubs you are interested in. Invite people to eat dinner with you or hang out in your dorm room. Also, just be yourself! People will truly like you and want to be your friend if you are true to yourself.
I agree with philbegas, as long as you don’t become reliant on alcohol, there’s nothing like having a cold one to ease the stress and anxiety away to meet people. Otherwise just throw yourself out there, what’s the worse thing that can happen? Something awkward, who cares? Trust me, I’ve been in deep depression before and the best thing you can do is just get up and start doing stuff, eventually it will become natural.
If you have workstudy, see if you can get a campus job where you meet people, maybe in the dining hall or library or somewhere else on campus, just a few hours/week can help your pocketbook and help you get to know more folks. Try different things, especially when you first arrive and there are activities organized by the dorm, so you can get to know others.
