Well, I found out that one of my suitemates (who is studying abroad in Scotland next semester) is planning on living off-campus next year and another one is possibly joining him. Both are sophomores and I’m a junior. As far for me, I plan on living on-campus again yet I have no idea where I’m gonna live (dorm) nor who I’m going to live with since I’m still - for most intents and purposes - friendless. I’ve been too busy to make friends (especially with writing my thesis proposal). At this point, I may have to leave my learning community since everyone has friends in there (except me) and they almost always request to be suitemates. I don’t know any other males in my graduating class who don’t have plans so far. Does anyone have any suggestions?
Well, from what my mom told me, I better have plans before housing and suitemate selection or else I might get reamed and/or punished.
You had the same problem last year. If you want to stay in your living community you need to either find suite-mates within the community or once again accept random suite-mates within the community. Perhaps it is worth your time to speak to whoever is in charge of the living community about next year. Other options would be to accept random roommates/suite-mates elsewhere on campus, find a single room on campus, or get a studio apartment off-campus. You will know the options better than anyone her and have not given enough information for anyone to make a specific useful suggestion.
Honestly I don’t think anyone is too busy to make friends even with the work necessary to do a thesis proposal. My D had many friends who wrote a thesis in college, who did research on campus and were published etc.
I hope you are going to counseling (as was suggested numerous times in replies to your other posts) and that it has been somewhat helpful.
@happy1
I’ve been going to counseling and it has helped somewhat but my therapist left at the beginning of December and I haven’t been reassigned yet. I can’t have a single on campus because I’m upperclassmen and I can’t afford an off-campus apartment. Anyway, as far as friendships go, as hard as it is for me to make friends it’s even harder for me to keep them. It’s something I’ve always struggled with and always will. I suspect my “friendships” have always been one-sided and they just put up with me. I just feel awkward around them a lot of the time, like something’s off.
Then I’d suggest you talk to the advisor who is running your living community when you return to college in January to see if he/she can help you out either in terms of helping you to find new suite-mates or at the very least to assure you will have a spot in the community next year.
@happy1
As long as I’m still in the Honors Program, which I should be, I’m guaranteed a spot in the community for next year. So I’ll talk to my advisor in January to see if he can help me out in terms of helping me find new suitemates.
I think that sounds like your best bet. Staying in the honors house sounds to me like a better option than moving elsewhere on campus with people you don’t know.
Now you can tell your mom that you have a plan of action – tell her you plan to stay in the honors housing, that you are guaranteed a spot there, and that you will speak to the advisor about next year when you return in January.