There are some parents who put a lot of money into youth sports and don’t understand how college scholarships work, and they are disappointed when Billy and Susie are seniors and there is not a pot of gold waiting. There are a lot more who want to use the sport to get the child into college, and getting a scholarship isn’t as important as getting into the top school and on the top team. I know a few of each type. If there were no tips or slots into Ivies or no scholarships to Stanford would these families still have paid for all the lessons, all the training, all the teams? I think they would. Most I know paying the big bucks are wealthy, and their kids were golfing and playing tennis at the country club long before middle schools. They also pay a lot for piano lessons knowing their kids are not going to be professional muscians.
Then there are the thousands upon thousands of us who had our kids in youth sports because we believe youth sports are good for development. My kids tried swimming and skating and one horrible horrible session of soccer for 3-4 year olds (that was enough for me!), basketball and volleyball at school, gymnastic sessions and camps, tennis lessons, golf, rowing… My kids topped out at 5’4" and they were never going to be basketball players, never going to swim against Missy Franklin in the olympics (who was in their same age group for swimming and could have given them a 25 yard head start and still whipped them in a 50 yard race when she was 5 years old), but they had fun playing in the Catholic school 3rd/4th grade city basketball championship one year. They played for fun, for exercise, because their friends and classmates did, because their uncle was a coach and needed players. They dropped some sports, picked up others. One D does play in college but didn’t decide to do so until she was finishing her junior year season. She had not contacted one coach, not gone to one college camp before that summer. Basically she started recruiting in June and signed an NLI in Nov.
I paid for a club team and some travel during high school, but I also paid for hockey (no scholarship anywhere in sight), for band and band camp (no music scholarship coming our way), girl scout camps, church activities, field trips to the state capitol, art lessons, children’s choir, a trip to France. It’s all part of raising kids. I don’t regret any of it. Everything was paid for with the expectation that they were benefiting from the activity at the time, not because it was getting them closer to a college scholarship.
If anything, had I’d known my daughter was going to play in college I would have paid for more camps, more tournaments, more clubs during her middle school and high school years. I would have bought better equipment, better cleats, more tape and nutrition classes and cross-training. We would have started recruiting earlier and visited more schools so she would have had even more choices. If she hadn’t played in college, I would have no regrets that I spent the money I did for her youth training. As it has turned out, I have a great ROI as her scholarship more than covered anything I paid for youth sports in just one year, so the rest is gravy.
My sister paid 10x what I did for her kids to play youth sports with no expectation of a college scholarship, and neither of her kids played in college (both could have played D1). They also did music and horseback riding and swim team and fencing and football and church groups and art lessons and creative writing and piano and lots more…No regrets.
