<p>looks like you dodge a bullet there</p>
<p>And I hope you're also glad to say that you dumped the crazy *****, called the nearest psycho center, and hooked up with that girl you talked with after the exam?</p>
<p>Im sighing in relief for you right now. Playing the pregnancy card is cruel if one is not entirely sure that she is.</p>
<p>drop her ass NOW. don't wait until your fears come true</p>
<p>Don't make the mistake of sleeping with her again.</p>
<p>what Central Perky said---I am a female, and hate saying this, but some female types can have "accidents" with birth control, so if you don't trust her, why even take any kind of risk of become a father- because if you do....that is your life</p>
<p>Everybody else in this thread is giving you terrible advice and you should have more unprotected sex with your girlfriend.</p>
<p>Merry Christmas! No baby for you.
Sorry to hear she's causing you so much drama. :( I hope you guys work it out.</p>
<p>I love how everyone is blaming the girl. This guy is porking the girl, so he is just as much to blame.</p>
<p>Listen man, first off ENSURE she is not pregnant. If you are not 100% sure follow these instructions, yes, they are low, but who cares:</p>
<ol>
<li><p>Make the next week for you and her WONDERFUL (or the next week you are together). I'm talking about swoon her, make her feel that same feeling she first felt.</p></li>
<li><p>Once there, bring up the subject casually, I mean really casually, almost as if you are interested in having the kid. Why hyakku? Silence yourself and learn. See what her feelings are on the following subjects:</p></li>
</ol>
<p>Having the child.
Abortion.
Adoption.
Keeping the Child.
Your life after having kids
where your relationship is heading (ensure her that you want to be prepared for anything with her).</p>
<p>Be sure to ask her all of these. Why? Not only will you know her stance quite clearly, but it will also make her feel as if you are prepared for either situation. In reality your pants are probably browner than me (and that's pretty brown man trust me), but do NOT let her see this.</p>
<ol>
<li><p>Wait another week. If she is intelligent and IS pregnant, but is willing to have an abortion. Do so, immediately. Before she can have the "abortion syndrome", i.e. concern about killing a living thing, etc. What was the point of asking the other questions? To keep her from thinking you want her to have an abortion then dropping her.</p></li>
<li><p>Once you are sure she is not pregnant, drop her. This sounds bad, but I have seen this situation innumerable times, and it NEVER, listen to me, NEVER, works out for EITHER party. She will despise you, she will hate you, but you will BOTH have your lives.</p></li>
<li><p>If she is not pregnant, dump her. If you both truly have feelings for each other, the break will bring her swiftly BACK into reality and make her realize she cannot own you like a pet.</p></li>
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<p>This sounds cold hearted, but if you have seen the things I have, you will thank me in 9 months.</p>
<p>^I can't believe you took the time to write that drivel.</p>
<p>He already said she's not pregnant. </p>
<p>Next time, though, let's hope you use some brains and buy a condom, because if she had been pregnant you would've been screwed, my friend. And why is abortion the first thing that comes to mind? That's the reason I don't like it; not because it kills a baby, because it doesn't, and any doctor other than Ron Paul will tell you that. I don't like it because it makes people think they can do whatever they want and not face the consequences.</p>
<p>But she's not pregnant, so consider yourself VERY lucky.</p>
<p>"any doctor would tell you abortion is not killing a baby"</p>
<p>lol...that's laughable...</p>
<p>still, I agree that people should own up to the consequences of their actions</p>
<p>abortion should not be seen as good option in most cases, though, because of the psychosocial risks involved. women's responses vary greatly but overall they tend to either follow an abnormal pattern of grief (i.e., persistent over the lifespan) or they end up dehumanizing (Goodwin & Oggden, 2007; Fountain, 2007), which is generally not an adaptive coping mechanism... while maladaptive coping is not necessarily at high risk for most individuals, pushing someone to do something that could increase their risk of mental illness simply to get out of the consequences of your actions is purely selfish and unethical!</p>
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I don't like it because it makes people think they can do whatever they want and not face the consequences.
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<p>I was having sex with my girlfriend (MY GIRLFRIEND) the other day and we had this conversation:
Me: "We don't have to use a condom, hon!"
Her: "But what if I get pregnant?"
Me: "Dude, abortions are like $50 these days! It's like a magic quick-fix that gets rid of the problem and doesn't make us own up to the consequences!"
Her: (ENORMOUS grin) "Oh, right! Let's go, babe!"</p>
<p>Because the vast majority of people who go through abortions see it as a quick solution to a problem and not a major procedure with long-lasting implications.</p>
<p>My point was that most doctors agree that an embryo does not become an actual human being until the 2nd trimester (or somewhere around there, not gonna bother to look up the exact week #). Before then, there's no brainwave or heart activity, and the baby isn't even a fetus yet; just an embryo. 1st trimester abortion is not murder, then. </p>
<p>I still disagree with it, and I understand there are a lot of risks (both physical and psychological) that come with abortion, and doctors will tell you THAT. I wasn't trying to say doctors endorse abortion, because any responsible doctor will do his best to make sure his patient understands the risks and alternatives before performing one.</p>
<p>I was in a simiar relationship. Its only going to get wayyy worse (ex. was at school, guy walking next to me due to traffic, bofriend sees, flips out, turns abusive. and i never even looked/talked to the boy) so get out as soon as you can. And try not to date virgins in the future.</p>
<p>Hey, virgins aren't all bad people... most are just scared and inexperienced. Give the collective virgin population a break.</p>
<p>(I say this as a person who's done two virgins in as many years.)</p>
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I was having sex with my girlfriend (MY GIRLFRIEND) the other day and we had this conversation:
Me: "We don't have to use a condom, hon!"
Her: "But what if I get pregnant?"
Me: "Dude, abortions are like $50 these days! It's like a magic quick-fix that gets rid of the problem and doesn't make us own up to the consequences!"
Her: (ENORMOUS grin) "Oh, right! Let's go, babe!"
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<p>If you aren't getting married or plan to break up soon, I would like her number.</p>
<p>Joking. Maybe.</p>
<p>^^hahahahaha</p>
<p>Look, you should think a little harder. How long have you been with her? If you guys have been together for a good while (I'm talking more than 3 months), you should be comfortable discussing all issues relating to sex- including babies and abortion. See how comfortable both of you are- I mean you should both be able to express your own opinions and support each other's (ex: you're aganist abortion and she's not...what are you going to do about that?)</p>
<p>Seriously, all of you need to GROW UP. I don't care how cheap abortions are but there is a good amount of psychological consequences that come with it afterwards. Women are much more emotional when they feel something's in their bodies because everything's INSIDE her. When something's taken away from her, she's bound to feel a lot of guilt and regret- either aborting a beautiful child that she'll never get to see or hold or having sex in the first place when she isn't ready to have a kid. That can last a very long time even with therapy.</p>
<p>You men, on the other hand, just stick yourself in and leave when you're satisfied and don't take responsbility unless you're willing to admit it.</p>
<p>I feel sorry for the girlfriend who didn't realize that she wasn't ready for sex emotionally and lashed out irrationally as a result. If she was truly ready for anything, she wouldn't have said anything unless she was absolutely sure (I never said a word to my old boyfriend when I was several days late because I didn't want to flip both of us out unless it was definite). I think both of you need to hold it off a bit longer until she's really, really ready.</p>
<p>But I'm telling you right now, DO NOT DUMP HER. If you do want to leave her, just don't do it yet. She's still very vulnerable because she just gave up her virginity to you and waited this long. You want to hold onto her so that you can show that you still care about her and not be that jerk who used her. For now, just be nice and stay PG-rated until she calms down...totally.</p>