OP: I think that the University of Michigan may satisfy all of your interests. Well respected for Computer Science and Psychology, it also has an honors program that is among the very best in the nation. There are also lots of living / learning communities which may match your specific interests.
The Fiske Guide To Colleges 2020 writes that the University of Michigan:
“The most interesting mass of humanity east of UC Berkeley. UM is among the nation’s leaders in most subjects… Superb honors and living / learning programs…”
“Michigan’s special academic programs seek to offer the best of both worlds–personalized attention and a large university setting.”
“The university’s long-established honors program, considered to be one of the best in the nation, offers qualified students honors courses and seminars, opportunities to participate in individual or collaborative research, and access to dedicated academic advisors.”
The same could be written about the University of Chicago, Northwestern, Brown, or Carnegie Mellon University.