Tracking journey, thought-process, for kid whose safety is currently #1

The OP’s son has a plan for applying to colleges. I say…as long as he is happy with attending the state flagship, then fine. I personally think he is missing a LOT of excellent options for chemical engineering that fall between those reach schools and the flagship…but that’s my opinion.

Anecdote of one…very strong student, class Val, excellent ECs. Applied to only three schools…two Ivies, and one OOS public…also engineering. Got accepted only at the OOS public…it all turned out fine…but it was a horrible senior year. Lots of disappointment. And that was only two rejections (one was a waitlist that resulted in a rejection). This family never even considered any other options between those Ivies…and the OOS public for engineering.

My personal opinion is that basing college applications on a high school junior’s perception of specific professors’ research interests is ridiculous. The student might drastically change their interests, that professor might not even want them in their lab, and there is so much more going on those 4 years.

Exactly. Maybe for grad school though.

@compmom I think this thread is meant to be a long term blog post. So no need for the op to consistently post on it

^ “Georgia Tech (what, 99 degrees in the shade in July?).”

I grew up in the SE. GA in July is upper 80’s lower 90’s… it’s the humidity that gets you.

99 in the shade is Austin TX June, July, August.

“He has been emailing a chem engineering professor at a college (which he ruled out, by the way) for about six months”. Please suggest he write a very nice personal note to this professor thanking him or her profusely for their time .

There would be many engineering students at Ohio State who will have very high stats, as your son does . Only he and your family can decide whether you want to pay extra for more prestige . Many of the schools being targeted give little or no merit aid. You are in a great position, he likes Ohio State!

OP seeing as you’re from Ohio I would guess that the safety is OSU which is a fabulous school. It was a safety for my son and if he hadn’t gotten into the highly selective school he’s going to he would have been super happy attending. With your son’s stats he should be more than fine getting in even for Engineering. One thing to know about OSU, however, is that even if you get your app in super early there is no way to gauge when that acceptance is coming. My son was lucky enough to get in that first wave in October I think it was but many others didn’t hear until much later. It’s nice to have that first acceptance early before you’re in a sea of “nos”. There’s no rhyme or reason as to when you hear from OSU. If he applied to say, Pitt, he could have that acceptance as early as September. Just something to keep in mind. My son got VERY lucky but admissions amongst his very high stat friends was a virtual bloodbath.

If your kid is comfortable with his safety and you can easily afford all the other schools on his list, why does he need another safety? Unless you’re looking for a safety with more prestige, all he needs is one.

It sounds like you want a name brand school for this kid because he’s the “smart one” and you’re disappointed he’s “settling” for the flagship. If he’s happy with his safety and it has a good program then I don’t think you have a problem other than the fact that you have a high stats kid and you could comfortably afford for him to go anywhere and it seems to bother you that he’s happy with the state flagship or community college. If he’s happy, why aren’t you?

Thanks. About 150 kids from our high school apply to OSU every year and because my son is on two sports teams (and has played with his teammates since he was five!) he knows about 20 of them very well, so we are very, very familiar with the OSU ‘rolling’ (sort of) admissions practices. And my oldest went to OSU, and while the limit for scores had increased quite a bit since he entered 10 years ago, the process had not changed. I guess not asking for too much from a college which has 49,000 students is reasonable! Every other Friday night, for about two months each winter, is filled with chatter among all parents here, as OSU is the prize most kids shoot for here.

My oldest, despite being in bschool at Columbia right now, is urging my son to go to OSU. His point is that OSU’s engineering program will kick his rear end just fine, but he will also have a ton of fun. More importantly to my youngest, OSU is the center of a gigantic multi-institutional research program (something about surface something or other and nano something - the basic science behind renewable fuels. I don’t understand a word he is saying). He read a book a year ago and kind of lit him on fire for what he wants to learn. So, there are only 20 schools in the country participating in this initiative. Almost all of his schools on his list have a part in that research consortium. A couple have a very active lab which do the same kind of things but are not part of that research consortium. Not great, but acceptable to him.

He sought out a chem engineering prof in a local university and has been doing scut work in his lab and he has been great at steering my son. The goal at the undergrad level is not to come out of college knowing that stuff, but to get a solid grounding in the basic sciences so he can get to the good part later. He loves that chem engineering will allow him to work right away after college if he wants to earn money first, or go on to more right away. A 17 year old has a hard time imagining 10 more years of schooling (like his parents did and we do not reminisce about grad school/post docs fondly!).

So, his college list choice has nothing to do with elitism (but he is human and would naturally like to have an elite college experience, too). It has to do with which schools are part of his research consortium, and elite schools are ranked for a reason- they have excellent professors who do cutting edge and important research. There are lots of fantastic minds in other colleges, too. But in chem engineering, size of program matters. You need BIG labs and such to do this kind of work. Few have it.

As luck would have it, my son’s babysitter stopped by last night during her summer break. She goes to OSU medical school. She turned down a full scholarship at Harvard to go to OSU as an undergrad. We learned last night that she turned down a full scholarship to Harvard medical school too! Ha! (She is this tiny, 4’ 10”, incredibly quiet little genius who has an amazing mind). She only mentioned that because she was chatting with my son about the impact of location on his decision and also how, for her, OSU’s size was a huge advantage because there was nothing she couldn’t find there. He gets that.

It was good for him to be reminded of the strategy he had started with in his college…the only bad thing about OSU (besides an iffy foortball recruiting year, he tells me), is its location being in Ohio. He is a dual Italian citizen (we all are), so he has spent a lot of time traveling in his short life. He wants out of Ohio for college. I get it.

He spent many hours in the locker room last year as his senior friends lamented their latest rejection. He is fully aware of the odds and very prepared. And not at all worried about OSU acceptance. His GPA is .6 pts. higher than its 2018 cut off and two of the kids he tutored in math last year are entering freshmen in engineering in August. If lightening strikes, and OSU somehow bombs out and all else failed, he’ll spend a year on his construction job and earn enough to pay for OSU room & board for a couple of years (which he actually seriously considered doing anyway because he loves his job, too).

I appreciate your reaching out!

I presented his journey on CC not for help, per se, (although when we started this I was a bit freaked out until he eventually shared his strategy and intended process with me). It is for those parents/students out there who are a bit odd like my son. Not every kid cares about the food, the dorms, the otter students, or junior year abroad (and that is because they are 17). And the 1/3 safeties, 1/3 match , etc. rule is not always a good rule.

People have a tendency to over react to potential downsides and take unnecessary steps to avoid that downside, where the resources taken to avoid that downside are better applied to seeking the upside. With his 10 app limit (his HS rule), makes zero sense to apply to more than one safety and less sense to apply to any ‘matches’ at all. There are none he would attend, and we have no financial barriers to any of his acceptable options.

I know we are not the rule, but the exception. But given the huge number of messages I have gotten regarding otter kids thinking just like my son, we are not the sole exception. People on CC tend to react to the rule, not the exceptions, despite posters articulating the circumstances. Not sure if many have reading comprehension issues (that would be ironic!), or more likely they have some unknown agenda and beat their drum regardless.

OP’s son and OP are in a good place. When your state school is a top school, there isn’t much further up the ranking charts you can climb, especially if you are doing a cost value analysis. The very top schools are such lottery tickets to most everyone with no merit money , and scholarships to those schools on the top 20 list are very scarce , so it comes down to what’s worth paying more for. Like a lot more for.

My friends in a Michigan were in that situation. Are full pay costs at Emory and JHU truly worth that much more than UM in state cost?

@cypresspat OSU is such a fun school. He would have a great time. Happy student=successful student

Love this thread. We even got a guessing game out of it ?.

My son’s approach was not so far off yours. We had an extensive excel spreadsheet with 38 engineering school that finally got down to like 10. I on purpose had him apply to several safeties. First I really wanted him to explore schools that were not T20. There are a lot of great schools out there. Secondly and sorta selfish on my part, I wanted him to get some clear early acceptances before the Hammer would drop.:hammer_and_pick:.

Lot of similar schools as your list.

We after the first 2 schools we visited skipped the rah, rah, sessions and did the engineering tours but after a few of those they basically seemed all the same. Funny you say chemical since that seemed to be the selling points at a lot of schools. We walked around and then had set up meetings with professors. This was the game changer for us. The passion and interests of the professors at some schools were just off the charts. Others it was like we were bothering them.

GT was extremely impressive. They have an ego but in a good way and when someone asked what do they do with the new technology coming out the AO stated “we develope the technology that everyone else uses”… pretty bold statement.

We faced a similar situation with Illinois being our instate. But it didn’t click with us or him. Also my wife went to Michigan…

Michigan was also #2 in his engineering field and that seemed more important to him. He also wanted to be challenged. Michigan is a very tough school even for the best students. Becareful what you wish for.

So since we get to spend your money and you don’t seem to mind… ?, for us sending our kid OOS to Michigan had been worth every penny. You can say this about Ohio State etc but we are just seeing opportunities with my son putting himself out there a bit that we couldn’t imagine. He and a Ross student combined interests and the school support has been unreal. Professor /school /alumni have come out of the woodwork to help.

Also in engineering once your in, your in. Need to change focus… No problem… Need to add a minor or two. Great just do it. Research opportunities are abound. Email some professors and start.

One thing when talking to Michigan is we kept hearing the world “family”. I truly do think they think that.

Think you said your son mentioned football… This was a huge factor for my son. Really sports in general. Pretty good recruiting year so far… Lol… But there’s a team they have a bit of trouble with. ?.

Heh, they are playing in the College baseball world series tomorrow does that count for anything… Lol⚾?.

Sounds like your kid will take some initiative? If so, he will do great wherever he will land.

There’s no such thing as a full scholarship to Harvard. Unless the family is very, very poor and EFC is zero. And that would be a financial aid scholarship, not a merit one.

Why would a full need student turn down Harvard which is very generous with such students to go to OSU?

That IS curious. Usually, a kid that bothers to apply to a place like Harvard in the first place, tends to attend there over their state school, if the price is right (which seems to have been the case).

Harvard’s med school does NOT offer scholarships either. Their financial aid package begins with their base unit loan and then builds upon that with financial aid based upon need - need not only of the student but the parents’ info as well. Dartmouth’s med school also uses the base unit loan method and then financial need. No scholarships.

On the other hand UNC-Chapel Hill’s med school does offer med school scholarships based on merit. Univ of Alabama is another.

So unless you are full pay to Harvard’s med school, a unit loan ($40,000+ per year) is always included. Other med schools do offer full tuition+fees+stipend scholarships which are much lower than the unit base loan. And these offers are at the time of acceptance or in many cases after.

Much of this was discovered during son’s app season to med school. It mirrored much of his undergrad app season and no “scholarships” to harvard, only financial aid and as a 0 EFC family we saw the elasticity of “financial need” and each schools respective packages.

Something is not adding up with a full scholarship from Harvard. They only give financial aid packages. I’m not familiar with their med school practices. I’ve heard so many people use the term “full Ride” and “scholarship” when they are no where the case.

I do know someone, once upon a time, who turned down a very good financial aid award from Harvard for an athletic scholarship at a flagship state school. In his case, even that generous financial aid was not enough because his parents were not going to pay anything, and the lure of a better chance at professional sports was what made the decision.

I am also very curious about the “full ride to Harvard” babysitter. Is this possible to get a full ride, especially for Medical School?

@zoekirbymikey It’s not possible to get merit money for Harvard. If someone receives a “full ride” they are getting financial aid only.

@cypresspat , What actually did this young woman say about going to OSU over Harvard? I might be a little concerned your son is not getting the full picture from her.