Transfer after one semester

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I am a freshman at a small liberal arts college. I had been accepted into my first choice college for the spring term and came here for the fall. I originally was planning on staying all four years but decided I wanted to go to my first choice in the spring. (many others at my school have talked about transferring since it is so small and boring) I have made friends here but they are more like acquaintances but I can’t seem to let myself form bonds with them since I will be leaving in about a month or so. I have a few questions

1.)How should I tell my roommate I am leaving? We have become friends and she thinks I love it here and often expresses how she doesn’t understand how anyone would want to transfer. Our other roommate had moved out the first week so when i leave she will be in a triple room alone. Also she often mentions the school I am leaving for and says that she can’t imagine ever going there because it i so big and asks for my opinion. She has no idea that I am leaving and I don’t want to make it awkward. How should I mention it to her? Do you think I should wait till after Thanksgiving, leaving two weeks left?

2.)I am nervous about starting Spring term at such a large school, any suggestions?

3.)Now that I am 100% sure I am leaving I don’t really try to make friends. I have people that I talk to but now I am just trying to finish out the semester and leave but I feel like everyone around me (since its so small) is judging me for not really putting myself out there like i did at the beginning? Also i feel like I just want to go home on the weekends since it can get boring and if you aren’t hanging out with people (since its such a small school) people pity you

4.) How should i tell my advisor that i am leaving? I am suppose to be having meeting soon but why would i if i dont have o register for classes?

I am more focused on the first two questions those are my biggest concerns thanks!

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You have made the roommate situation worse by not being honest when the subject of transferring has come up before. There is no way to sugar coat it, so start with apologizing for not saying something sooner and say it. Expect her to be angry, but you need to give her time to find another roommate.

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Just because you’re leaving doesn’t mean you should avoid making friends. Being a [successful] adult has a lot to do with networking: who you know. The more people you know the better-off you could be later, especially when it comes time to look for a job. Your current roommate or other classmates might end-up working somewhere you want to, and them knowing you could be the final factor at getting your foot in the door.

Also, I agree with @AroundHere in that you should have told your roommate already. Tell her soon, apologize for waiting, and maybe help her find a new roommate. Also, tell your advisor before they waste more time looking at your records to offer suggestions.