<p>I made the decision to apply to transfer to a different school at the last minute, about two weeks before the deadline. Even if I get in, I'm not positive I'd attend, but it's an option I'd like to leave available for myself.</p>
<p>Question is, it's housing selection time at my current school and my current roommate and I have made arrangements to stay together next year. I'm not telling anyone in my circle of friends about my application; the only way they'll find out is if I decide to attend if I am even accepted. However, I don't know what to do with my roommate- for all I know, I may be here next year, but I also might not be. There's really nothing we can do about it right now; either we put each other down or she finds someone new, but we'd both really like to stay together. What's the etiquette in this sort of situation?</p>
<p>I’m in the same situation. I kept telling myself to go on with life at my current school as if I hadn’t applied for transfer at all. Now I’m involved in these huge leadership opportunities and I’d be effectively screwing over a club with 500 members and two other organizations if I leave. But I figure that I’m not going to get accepted anyway so I shouldn’t miss out on opportunities at my current school when everyone else is getting involved. Then I start rehearsing speeches in my head of the things I’d say to the people I’m leaving behind if I do transfer. </p>
<p>I need to snap out of it. Argh. Either way it’s a huge emotional toll - transfer, not for the faint of heart.</p>
<p>goddessxx, I feel EXACTLY the same way.
I have involved myself more than ever in my current university so that if I leave, there will be a whole lot of people that I let down. I’d feel guilty if I left. But not guilty enough to stay!
I have moments where I am so completely fine with staying, then hours where I dream what it would be like to get in. I have spent hours obsessing over the colleges I have applied to. Checking their residential life, their dining halls. I’m pretty OCD. The transfer process has occupied my mind since September last year and either way, I will be SO excited to get the results and move on with my life.
Where have you applied?
I’ve applied to seven places (all with really low admission rates), so my chances of admission overall are minute. Still. I have some hope for two of them. The rest I’m pretty sure I’ll be rejected.
My dream would be to get into either Middlebury or Amherst.AHHHHHHHHH.</p>
<p>You got that right! The important thing, transfer or not, is that you make the best of the situation you’re in. Believe me, there will be positives and negatives whether you stay or go.</p>
<p>Hang in there and best of luck to everyone!</p>
<p>@claire06 - I only applied to one school: Cornell’s Industrial & Labor Relations School. It’s basically a one-shot deal for me… so it’s even more ■■■■-FORK-IN-THE-ROAD situation. I have this nasty premonition that fate will have me rejected just to make my life easier haha.</p>
<p>Yeah, I hate that feeling, I keep having it too. I think things happen for a reason though so no matter what happens, it will be okay. I know I’ll be telling myself that when the rejection letters arrive!
The wait is akin to slow torture really and I thought Middlebury was releasing decisions April 5th but I have heard reports that this is untrue (despite emails from Middlebury and their online login). I don’t know what I am going to do if decisions for Middlebury don’t come out then!
Good luck with Cornell! Hopefully it will work out for the both of us!</p>