Hi I recently just transferred to a top public university from a community college. Ever since I decided that I was going to attend community college, all I could look forward to was going to a four year university. However now that I’m here, it hasn’t been all that great. Sure I’m glad that I got into a good school and my grades are okay, however the one that really bothers me is my lack of friends.
Now its not that I haven’t been trying. I’ve been to four or five clubs that really interest me in order to try to meet people. Still I haven’t really made any close connections really. In fact, one club I went, people weren’t friendly at all. Basically I’m going to the clubs that interest me in order to meet people. But I haven’t really made any friends from it.
I live in the dorms and my roommate doesn’t want to seem to want to hang out with me since he already has his own friends. In addition, the people in my dorm are all really nice, but almost all of them are Freshmen and Sophomores, when they find out I’m a upperclassman they don’t seem to want to hang out with.
I think the main problem is that I’m a transfer and the people that are juniors like me already have their friends that they made the two past years. Thus, they aren’t really in the make “close friends” mentality since they probably have already made some. I’ve even tried to meet other transfers. I went to the transfer welcome day and I got a few phone numbers from people there. But the people that I met there have different interests than me and haven’t really shown any interest when I text them.
Sorry if I sound all down in everything. It’s just that I was really looking forward to being at a four year university, and just doing well in school won’t make me truly happy. Obviously I won’t be transferring again because I’m a junior. However I would love any suggestions really on what I should do. Sure I don’t mind working hard in my classes, but it would be nice to have some close friends.