<p>I'm going to be transferring to the University of North Carolina, Chapel Hill this fall as a junior. I'm from California and did my first two years of college (G.E.) at a community college here.</p>
<p>I feel like all I hear is how tough life is for transfer students when they go to college, especially when it's an out-of-state one. I hear that they don't make friends because everyone already has their set group.</p>
<p>I'm a pretty outgoing and fun person once you get to know me, but I can be shy at first like many people. I'm just really nervous that I won't forge any friendships or have any fun and it makes me even nervous that I'll be across the country from my family/friends.</p>
<p>UNC is my dream school but I'm freaking out...can someone give me some advice (besides "joining a club)? Is being lonely really what I'm in for as an out-of-state transfer?</p>
<p>Don’t worry, you’ll be fine. Your roommate and hall mates should be a pretty good place to start on the friend front, and as long as you just make yourself open and friendly, then you’re good to go. I intend to transfer to UNC CH after a year at another school, so at the very least, I’ll be your friend when I get there xD No but seriously, I know a lot of people there, and they have always been super nice and accepting. Just because the majority of students are in-state, doesn’t mean they all know each other, or that they’re all friends with one another. A lot of them don’t even want to keep to the same circle that they had in high school, college is a time for branching out for everyone, not just those coming from other states; everyone will want to make friends. It doesn’t matter what grade you’re in, what state you came from, or really what your major is. Just be nice, be open to new ideas, and have a few fun ideas of your own–that’s all you have to do. You’ll get along really well, I promise.</p>
<p>Oh, but one important thing that I learned when I studied abroad–closest thing I can think of to compare to going cross country for school–is don’t text and Facebook and tweet your old friends/family all the time. It will get you nowhere, you won’t really make new friends, and you’ll get so caught up with what’s going on ‘at home’ that you won’t really get the experience you’re supposed to at college. Texting your friends now and again to let them know you still love them is fine; but you’re going to college away from them, and you need to live–mentally and physically–in the place that you’re going to be in. Immerse yourself in CH, it’s a great place with friendly people, don’t handicap yourself with a world based in technology.</p>
<p>i, too am a transfer student. The only way you can make friends is to approach. If you do nothing, and wait for them to come to you, you’ll probably meet a few people, but in essence, you won’t be happy. In life, if you want something, you’ll have to make a effort to get it.</p>
<p>Clubs, activities, library are all convenient places to get to know people.</p>
<p>You definitely should stop worrying about making friends. It is something that comes so naturally at college. It is important to make yourself available, if that makes sense? What i mean is be friendly yourself. Smile at people, try to smile at everyone. You will get some smiles back immediately and some will come around later. You will be amazed at the power of a smile. </p>
<p>There are a few good ways of making friends in college. One is to study together. Many, probably most students, will want someone to study with. If there is a study group for certain classes then join in. If there is not one, then announce to a few people that you would like to start one or even have the teacher announce it for you if it is a big class. Being put together with a small group will give you an excellent chance to get to know people and then will lead to other types of hanging out.</p>
<p>It is so easy to become closer to people when you see the same ones all the time. Make conversations and ask around who will be need to take some of the same classes as you. There will be no trouble at all.</p>
<p>I also applying for unc and wondering if i would be able to relate to people.I would consider myself the most open minded person there is .Are there any more people like that at unc? my current school in texas is lacking in that sense.Its not bad but everyone is just way too different from me.</p>