<p>I wouldn't exactly say i'm bored but I haven't really met any new people since transferring. I've only been hanging out with friends I already knew from home which is good since i haven't been able to do that for awhile but at the same time i want to meet new people.</p>
<p>Another thing is I room with a friend (transfer as well) so that makes it a bit tougher to meet new people too. Also it gets pretty annoying being around him all the time so i've resorted to staying at the library more than i usually would.</p>
<p>well… u go to UCSD =\ what do you expect. but ya, i got into uci but i denied acceptance to go to UCSB because i didnt know anyone at the UCSB campus and i didnt want to end up in the situation that your in, rooming with your friends because you dont wanna be a jerk and tell him that you rather dorm with someone else because you want to meet new people.</p>
<p>The advice I’ve always recieved from people, not about college but living in general, is that roommates should never be friends (unless you don’t intend to stay friends). If you have to learn to hate somebody, you’re better off choosing a stranger.</p>
<p>Week 0: Met roommates. cool people. best friends now.
Week 1: Went to frat events, met more cool people. But no longer meet them.
Week 2: Went to more frat events (professional frats), met even more cool people. FACEBOOK FRIENDS hehehe
Week 3: Joined a club. Met even more cool people. Occassionally hang out and eat together.
Week 4: Busy with Midterms.
Week 5: Chill, but I no longer feel so desperate to make friends because by now, cliques are already formed (yes, even among the transfers) and people you meet from now (95%) will only be so close to be your acquaintances (aka “talking buddies” or “classmates”)
Week 6: Here I am. Preparing for the second midterm.</p>
<p>In conclusion, for the past 6 weeks, I met tons of new people, gone to parties and attended various social events, but only managed to become close friends with around 5 people, with my roommies being my best buddies. The rest stay as either my facebook friends or acquaintances where we just say “hi” and “bye” when we meet on the way to class.</p>
<p>But I’m not complaining cuz that’s how college is. You don’t need 20 different close friends. I don’t know about you guys, but I’m happy making very few yet very close friends than making 100 “acquaintances”. So don’t be so depressed about not having made many friends. That’s the norm. Unless you are a girl. :)</p>
<p>Edit: ok I take it back. that may not be the norm and I may as well be the rare breed here but what I’m trying to say is, don’t feel like a social reject for not having made many friends because we all have different style of what social means. Some people may feel better making a dozen friends from each class whereas some people are more comfortable making only a few “selected” friends. I just don’t want you to feel like this is some sort of competition where people with most friend wins. That may be the reality in High School, but not in college.</p>
<p>Thats the most detailed log I have seen someone write about their social life at college. It is good none the less you are enjoying it there. I am a winter transfer there, so I got a few months to go. Luckily for me I know quite a few people at UCLA already, plus I got a cousin there as well.</p>
<p>ya haha, it’s not that i don’t already have friends here…it is just that i wanted to meet some friends of my own (that aren’t friends of friends)</p>
<p>I am kinda of afraid of the same thing when I transfer. I want to make an effort to meet people outside of my friends group. It will make the college experience more of my own if that makes any sense the way I see it right now. Who knows how I will feel once I actually start in the winter.</p>
<p>Man, I’m living off campus so I’m having a harder time. I wish I lived in the dorms, god damnit, why didn’t I live in the dorms.</p>
<p>I was ****ing set back at Davis(where I transferred from) and had the best social life ever(similar to what dhl described). Now tho it’s so hard when you’re not living around people because all you do is become acquaintances(like dhl described) with everyone you meet..</p>
<p>i’m also a ucla transfer and must say that I’m pretty disappointed with my social life (though very pleased with my academics and grades). I also live off-campus and didnt get the dorms. I’ve met quite a few acquaintances but no close friends yet. Heck, I’ve only hung out with people outside of class once (with some freshmen, just chilled at their dorm). My roommates suck since all they do is watch TV and use their computers</p>
<p>Any chance you guys no someone who needs a new roommate for winter and spring quarter? I am a winter quarter transfer, and am trying to figure out where I am going to live still.</p>
<p>what you guys should do… is join clubs, thats a great way to meet new people… get more involved with school. do some volunteering and community service work.</p>