Hi!
So I’ve posted a lot on here in the past couple months (a lot of very sporadic posts), and I’m having a new problem that I was wondering if anyone else has faced.
I left my old school, Emory, after my freshman year to go to the University of Pennsylvania. At the time of leaving Emory, I still really loved it and was afraid that I was leaving something I loved behind. I told myself I could always go back and that I was mainly going to UPenn to just try it out and see how it goes.
Since getting to UPenn, I haven’t really been happy. The environment is quite isolating and I just feel like I’m very alone and stressed. Like classes are fine and I really do like the ambitious environment, but it just feels like it’s lacking in community and I feel more like a student of Philly just going to classes in the city rather than a student on UPenn’s campus (if that makes sense). So it feels like there’s not much of a campus and I really like having a campus environment. I also have very few friends due to this and that’s pretty rough, too.
So, about a couple weeks ago, I was pretty positive I’d be heading back to Emory. I was thinking about how great it was last year, where me and my closest friends would go off on our shenanigans and everything was great and I was super happy for the most part. I haven’t felt that way since.
Yet, I’d planned to visit Emory again for Fall Break just to see how it was and I was thinking I’d get here and think “Yes, this is exactly what I was looking for. I remember why I love this place.” But now, being back here, I’ve felt the total opposite. A lot has changed. A lot of my friends don’t really talk with each other anymore and one of them is even considering transferring. I know I haven’t actually been seeing it from a student’s perspective and change is expected, but it feels like I’ve changed, too. Like, I remember who I was last year, and since everything that’s happened, I don’t know where I belong really. The campus feels somewhat similar, but I also feel like now that I’ve seen how ambitious Penn’s campus is club-wise, it’s hard to come back and feel like I’m going backwards. It’s also just in a city so I like that about Penn, and I didn’t like how it felt like it was dead outside Emory’s campus.
I genuinely think they’re both great schools with a lot to offer, I just am afraid I don’t belong at either. And if that’s true, I don’t even know where I belong or what to do. I’ve been looking at schools that accept spring transfer admissions, but all the deadlines are in like the next five days, and I feel like it’s too late for me to sporadically spend a ton of money and apply to all these schools last minute. I don’t even think it’s feasible for me to do that. I don’t even have letters of recommendations and I’d feel guilty harrassing someone for one this late.
At the same time, if I wait until the year ends, I don’t know what I’ll do for next semester. My mental health has been pretty bad since getting to Penn, and I don’t know if I can do a second semester of this. At the same time, if I decide instead to go back to Emory, I’ll have wasted a semester at Penn (because Emory doesn’t accept any credits that I would’ve taken – I’d be returning as a re-admission). Plus, I’m afraid I’ll return to Emory and dislike it even more than Penn, because I’ve seen that things have changed and whatever wondrous dreamworld I’d been in my freshman year is dead now. On top of all that, if I wait until next fall to transfer, I won’t be able to transfer out if the new school I go to is also not a good fit.
I don’t know if maybe I’m just too picky or if maybe no school will make me happy because I’m simply not capable of that. But I know I was super happy last year at Emory – I just feel like whatever that experience was is gone now and I can’t go back and re-live that. So…yeah. I guess I’m just wondering what people thought about this. Also, what schools do take transfer admissions for spring? Andd if anyone here went to Emory or Penn, please let me know what you think and whether Penn might get better the more I get used to it or if Emory isn’t as different as I think it is.
Thank you!