I transferred after my first semester at a science and technology school in my state to a different school in the same state that offers more majors to pursue a degree in a different field for a combination of reasons that, at the time, included me not enjoying math or science. I was certain I was making the right decision, but as time has progressed, I think I’ve determined that I just freaked out about the workload and totally jumped the gun because I’m an extremely anxious person.
I also lived in a frat house my first semester, and I didnt like it because I didn’t like pledgeship, but since I’ve been back to visit, I’ve seen basically everything that I didn’t like about the house change for the better. And when I go back to visit, it’s really, really hard to see my old friends because I have yet to make friends with anyone at my new school with whom I feel a connection like I did with my friends at the first school. It gets more painful every time I return.
I guess my question is this: what the hell do I do? When I transferred the first time, I was able to keep the scholarships that I worked my ass off for in high school because of a mid year transfer thing that basically made it as if I had just never gone to the first school. But now I’ve been at the new school for a full year, and I’m not sure that my parents can afford to help me pay for the full tuition of the first school if I transfer back. But I find myself extremely unhappy and depressed, and I’m not really sure who to talk to at this point. I feel the full weight of a life changing decision that may not be reversible, and it’s really fucking hard to deal with.
Go to the counseling center at your campus and get some hlep. This could just be your depression talking, or you might really need to change universities. The counselors are the experts on this kind of thing.
Hey! I’m in a similar situation. I attended a university my freshman year for a particular major. I loved it, the professors were great, it was small and welcoming, students were cared about, and I made friends that I loved. I even cheered there. But I also had a terrible year, my mom got sick, diagnosed with breast cancer, my first pet and cat died, my boyfriend of 4 years and I broke up, my grandpa was hospitalized, twice, and to finish the year my grandma died in heart surgery leaving me one grandparent left. I was incredibly depressed that year for obvious reasons. I became antsy and decided I wanted to change my major and be closer to home. So I couldn’t take a semester off but I tried to study abroad oddly enough to take a break from the strict school settings. I then transferred to a much larger state school two hours closer to home. This school is overwhelmingly large, -and I just don’t feel at home here. My academics were perfect at my old school and I miss my friends. Here I am depressed and lonely as ever. I know this puts me two hours closer but now I feel like I could handle it better. Plus pretty much everything bad has already happened at this point. I miss my friends and how I felt at home there and although I will have only spent a semester at this new school I miss my old one and really want to go back because I feel like I left for all the wrong reasons. I feel like I was miserable my freshman year because it was an awful year for me in terms of personal home life, -'d I blamed my misery on my old school when in reality I was just depressed and struggling. I think about my old school every single day, my old classes, friends and professors. I think about going back all the time. I am currently a second semester sophomore. Any thoughts?
I understand @louuwhoo, I was in a much similar situation. I suffered from massive sorrow after my girlfriend died. In hindsight I really needed time off after High School but I rushed off to college. Looking back, I had some great memories but I was depressed and ended up dropping out. I was considering going to go to a state school after leaving, but my GPA was really too low so I took a semester off and went to community college afterward. I’d recommend taking a semester off if you could. I know you said you couldn’t take time off before, but if things are different now, take some time off to breathe. It did wonders for me. Afterward, try and go back to your old school. Or even just take a summer off and relax. Also, maybe see a counselor or a therapist at your new school to see if they can make things get better.
In the end, do whatever makes you happy. If going back to your old school will make you happy, go for it.