I was hoping someone here could give me some advice. My daughter attended an in-state school, living away from home, during the 2013-2014 school year. Her first semester was rocky, but she ended up with an A, a B and a D, with a GPA of 2.667. She started out with a bang in the 2nd semester. However, in February, she let me know that she had an eating disorder. I honestly believed she was over- reacting, but I got her to a counselor who sees girls with eating disorders. Around the end of March (I really can’t remember) she told me that her counselor had suggested she seek treatment at an in-patient facility. Honestly, I really didn’t think her condition was bad, and spring break, she had all A’s and B’s. We really aren’t in a financial position to throw 10k out the window on a semester. Since she was doing well in school, we convinced her to stay in school and we would seek in-patient treatment when she got home for the summer. In hindsight, really bad decision. Her grades plummeted. I’m not sure she even kept going to class. Even worse, her health went really downhill. By the time she got home in May, she was a totally different girl than the one I had dropped off at her dorm the August prior. Her grades for the spring semester were 2 F’s, 1 D and 1C. Her cumulative GPA was a 1.556.
She went into an in-patient treatment facility within a week of being home, and was in treatment there, both in-patient and out-patient through September. She is still seeing her counselor. I think she is much better, although I have learned a lot about eating disorders, and people with the illness are very good liars, so I’m not sure if I will ever consider her “cured.”
She is back living at home, much to her dismay. She has a part-time job and has been attending the local community college. She got 2 B’s and 2 A’s last semester (repeating one of her F’s from spring semester and her D from the previous fall semester) She is currently taking a mini-mester class and should probably get an A when it is completed.
She decided that she wanted to transfer to a different in-state school, beginning the Fall of 2015. She sent in her application, and her essay explained her eating disorder and the bad year at the other university. (That was suggested to my by an admission counselor at that school when I called to discuss her options.) Including college courses she took while still in high school, I calculate her GPA being around 2.23. I believe the university had told me in the fall that they required at 2.0 to transfer.
Yesterday, she got a letter saying that she did not meet the criteria for transferring, and to submit her spring grades when available. She is devastated. And frankly, I’m kind of pissed. Even if you don’t look at an eating disorder as an illness, yes, she messed up, but obviously has been doing everything right since then.
I’m trying to help her figure out her options here. She really doesn’t want to be at the community college in the fall.
Does anyone know if we could get away with applying to another school, and just omitting the bad year at the other university? Could we just say she took a gap year?
Thanks in advance for any help you can offer!