I am currently in my second semester of college at a university an hour away from home and it is not what I expected and I don’t know that dorm life is for me. I am considering transferring to a university 15 minutes from home and commuting. Need advice!
I went into the fall semester as excited as can be ready to experience everything college had to offer and meet new friends that hopefully would last a lifetime and that is far from what is happening. Instead I have no connection with my roommate except that we sleep in the same room(most of the time), and the friends that I thought I had made blow me off and don’t invite me to do anything. This leaves me bored and lonely in my room and missing home.
I have done everything I can to make friends; join a club, got a job on campus, talk to people in class. But all this has led to is a few acquaintances if that. I made friends with a group of girls one being my best friend from home who all room together down the hall from me and I got along with them really well. Until I noticed that I was always the one texting them to go get dinner or see what they were doing on the weekends and they never cared what I was doing or to include me. Since making friends is so hard at this school full of cliques I am often alone most of the time and I am just plain tired of it. Because of this I am often sad and not myself.
Although I only live an hour away I try and go home as little as possible to try and make the best of college, but instead every weekend I am always wishing I was home and am counting down the days until the next time i get to be their. Every time I go home I am as happy as can be and almost forget that college is so miserable and on sunday when I return to school I cry at the fact that I have to leave my family and return to my lonely room with no friends. To me this is not how college should be. After winter break I felt as if my mom was dropping me off for my first day of preschool and I didn’t want her to leave.
Because of this I am considering transferring to a college closer to my home and commuting. I think that this will help my overall mood and make me enjoy college despite it being harder to make friends as a commuter. In the end I am there to get my degree and try to get out with as little debt as possible and to me I think commuting might be the answer.
I would love any feedback or personal experiences with this!