So, I’m currently at Belmont and I pretty much hate it. I am starting the transfer process. There was one school that I really love, but I had taken off my list when going through the admissions process due to that I pictured myself doing music, which had completely changed. I love the school, it’s gorgeous and has everything I want. I love the city it’s in and just everything about it. There is just one major problem, my boyfriend goes there. I’ve visited a few times because of him and I’ve just completely loved the school itself. But I’m scared about people judging for going to school with him and also convincing my parents that I’m not going for him. I know people say choosing a school because of your boyfriend is a bad idea, but is not choosing a school because of him a bad one too?
I don’t see much of anything in your post that indicates what the other school has academically that your current school doesn’t. If you can’t articulate that, your parents will probably assume you’re transferring there to be near him.
I agree. I just see I hate A and love B with no rationale.
@austinmshauri @ErinsDad I’m leaving my current school because i overall just don’t feel right here. This is just not my place and also I’m switching my major into something that they do not offer here. Although Belmont does offer a lot of majors, they are widely focused on music and I want to switch to the sciences. My parents are already on board with me leaving Belmont but are not happy that I like the school my boyfriend goes to.
You need to be able to look your parents in the eyes and say:
“For as long as BF and I remain in a relationship, yes, there is a slight bonus for us to be studying at the same place so we can save time, effort, and money that now are taken up by traveling between two campuses. However, you need to know that I really don’t care that BF is a student there. I would have it on my application list even if he were at the opposite end of the country. I will keep it on my application list even if we break up before Thanksgiving. I also know that there is the possibility that my transfer application won’t be accepted. Here is the rest of my list. All of them meet my specific academic goals, and I believe that all of them fall within the range of what our family can afford.”
AS a suspicious parent:
I think it sounds suspiciously like your main reason for transferring is because the boyfriend is there. NO other science campuses are good enough???
@auntbea no the science courses here dont provide what i’m looking for, i said that in a reply earlier.
I would like to specify that i am looking at other schools, im realizing that the major problem is things i didnt mention…so if you have a question let me know.
AS a parent, I’m just giving you my reflection of what your parents will say.
I said:
That means that you couldn’t find any other colleges with your science major, throughout the US?
Sorry, but I find that really hard to believe.
@“aunt bea” I am looking at other schools, I’m sorry I didn’t mention that before
What is your ultimate career goal? And what major are you wanting to switch to that will help you get to your career goal?
I want to work with animals. I want to study Animal Biology in hopes of becoming a caretaker at a zoo or maybe a Wildlife Rehabilitator. @powercropper
Go to a different school than your boyfriend. Simple.