<p>I am going through so many changes all at once trasferring during my junior year at college. Last year I went from going to a small school far away where i was extremely comfortable and involved, had good friends, and a semi serious relationship. Then the end of my sophomore year my appartment, classes, and relationship all fell through. I also was unsure about my major and didnt really like anything else offered. I told my girl friend about possibly transferring and she was extremely supportative, but then found out her best friend had feelings for her, so she started dating that person, and everything was starting to fall apart. So i transfered to a bigger college a little bit closer to home as well. I found a major i love, which is the main important thing i guess but I am still rather depressed. I find my self thinking about my old friends and past accomplishments and how I spent my whole junior year depressed. But i guess you cant rush these things, hopefully one day it will lead me to something better, but i just feel extremely dissconnected and regretting everything, and I also feel like im back at high school again since its like a 13th grade at my new college. I try to get involved, but nothing seems to feel right anymore.</p>
<p>I’m sorry you’re having so much trouble! 
My first suggestion would be to try to find some organizations to get involved in, to create a deeper sense of unity with your new peers and surroundings, but it sounds like you have tried something along these lines and it didn’t work out for you…?
Nevertheless, there may just be a possibility that you haven’t yet found your niche. If you’ve tried some clubs and orgs and they didn’t feel right, try some new ones!! Check around and see if there is ANYTHING that even REMOTELY interests you, and dive in! Sometimes, and I know I’ve had this experience personally, you can be immediately turned off by something because of a preconceived notion you have about it, but then if you actually give it a chance you may not only find that you have a lot of fun and make a bunch of new friends, but also just might end up discovering you’re really good at or really enjoy some completely new field/talent/whatever that you never even gave a second thought to before! It does happen; at least think about it.
My next suggestion would be to see if you can get involved in intramural sports. This provides the possibility of all the things I already mentioned, but has the added benefit of causing your brain to naturally release endorphins and make you feel better- exercise is good for the soul, and team sports will not only give you exercise, but create new opportunities for fellowship on campus.</p>
<p>Beyond that I would suggest maybe checking out the resources at your new school and seeing if they have counselors you could talk to. Your problem is not at all uncommon; I’ve had several friends who went through the same thing, even at the community college level, and speaking to professionals on campus seemed to really help them gain new focus and serenity. You have to remember that the campus counselors deal with that issue in particular ALL THE TIME, so they can have some really good advice.</p>
<p>Finally, don’t dwell on the past. The worst thing you can do is focus on the negative. You mentioned that you’re “regretting everything”- that’s just shedding all available light on the negative, and you can always find something to regret, fear, or feel bad about, but that’s not going to help you turn your situation around. If you start really and truly convincing yourself that you made the right decision to transfer, shed all possible light on every positive aspect of your new school, peers, and environment, and make glowing plans for your future BASED on those positives, you will find your entire overall attitude changing in no time. What they say is true, and on many, many levels- fake it till you make it! Just put a smile on your face, get out there, and have faith in your decision. This is all going to carry you to your dream future! And don’t you forget it!</p>
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<p>Hope that advice helps. I know it’s a little cliche, but sometimes cliches exist for a reason- they’re just the simple facts of life…</p>
<p>I sincerely hope things get better for you, and I know that if you just have the confidence that they will, it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. </p>
<p>(P.S. Don’t forget to hit the dating scene! I’m betting a lot of your troubles stem from the demise of your relationship- don’t look back! You REALLY, REALLY never know- your dream girl could be just around the corner, seriously. You’ve made the right choice and everything happens for a reason…just be open to it when it comes!)</p>
<p>Thank you! What you said makes a lot of sense. I do get very negative sometimes about the whole situation espically when Im away from the school for awhile. I was going back from spring break and all I could think about was my old school. But I just need to suck it up and try some new things. I just find my self getting extremely home sick from my old school sometimes, but this is a better investment in my future and i guess it’s always good to try some new things…so thank you</p>