Transferring Twice? Mcintire

Colleges and Universities A-Z University of Virginia
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Okay, so my dilemma

I have a guaranteed transfer/conditional transfer offer from Cornell so I went to my local state school for my first year to save my parents money (multiple kids in college). It was a lot of fun and everything, made a good group of friends, but I definitely wasn’t feeling challenged enough and I wasn’t getting as many professional/academic opps despite being involved. I was heavily involved through and in greek life. However, I always knew I would be transferring to Cornell from the get go, so even if things were bad I always thought “Hey, it doesnt matter I’ll be at Cornell”

Now, I;m at Cornell and I’m miserable. I didn’t get transfer housing, my roommate is 2 years older, floor is mostly guys, no other female sophomore transfers and there’s a lot of returning students who have their own friend groups (I’ve tried to penetrate but its hard). I’ve gotten involved and re-affiliated with my srat but it hasn’t been an easy experience and I have a few friends but no one close and no one that I particularly love. I have another semester at Cornell but I’m already dreading it. I’ve been depressed for the past few months along with feeling lonely 24/7. Everyone else has their friends and seem t have adjusted. I’m trying to change my current housing right now and I’m going back to do recruitment, which will hopefully help me get closer with people, but I honestly don’t think it’ll get better here. I’ve tried so so hard. I used to have hope but now I feel hopeless. Everything else is going well - I’m super involved, grades are good, I have leadership, etc. But I’m lonely/depressed af.

I’m in state for UVA and my backup plan is to transfer to their business school (I would transfer to my old state school but I do recognize the professional/academic opps that come with a prestigious school) but I don’t know how realistic it is. And also, I have no idea if it’ll even be better there. I have one really good friend there but still. This whole semester has made my self esteem drop so much and has made me way more depressed/anxious. I just want it to get better at Cornell but I don’t know if it ever will. I potentially can graduate Cornell a semester early as well but I can’t take this depression any further. I don’t know what too do. Thoughts?

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I’m sorry you’re feeling so terrible where you’re at. I just wanted to chime in because I remember hearing a talk from a transfer advisor here, who said that the transfer admission rate to McIntire is way lower than the McIntire admission rate for students who were not transfers. So I would caution you not to consider it as a “backup plan”. It will be extremely competitive for you as a transfer student. Perhaps think about applying to transfer to the College, the admission rate for transfers is much higher.