<p>I've visited more than a dozen schools with my daughters (not very impressive in this crowd, I know), and we've only encountered one condescending school rep in all that time. Most of the schools would be considered elite, whether larger publics (UVA, UMich, UNC), mid-sized private schools (Vanderbilt, Duke, Brandeis), or Ivy League (Cornell). I've been very impressed with how welcoming and approachable both the adreps and the student tour guides have been, particularly considering how very many prospective students they see each year.</p>
<p>In our experience only, the most welcoming and attentive staff was at Brandeis. The one offputting adrep was at Duke, but the exceptionally warm and personable student guide quickly reversed our negative impression (especially when she brought us to her own room to show us what the dorms were like).</p>