Trouble Making and Keeping Friends?? As a Sophomore? HELP!

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<p>I'm currently a sophomore and I don't have a group of friends to hang out with. I have a couple friends here and there but we don't hang out regularly and they are all older then me. I always get depressed over the weekends because I don't have any plans and the pictures that get posted on my twitter and facebook feed from everyone's college parties make me even MORE depressed. Why can they easily make friends and keep them when i cant??</p>

<p>My freshman year kinda sucked because my roommate situation blowed. she wrote nasty things about me on twitter and stole my medication etc. she moved out mid semester thank god. i couldnt have the roomie to roomie relationship because we hated each other. i had my own room to myself which left me staying inside all week because i had no one to go out with. </p>

<p>now i feel like im behind on making friends since my small schools have all their cliques already formed. it would feel wierd if i went up to a group and introducing myself...like they would think "we know who you are....why are you doing this..." i literally have only one guy friend on campus and am only friends with my bball team. no. one. else. and since i commute it will only be harder. and since i try to go to parties, i cant really drink because i need to get home. i felt bad because i feel like my friend was obligated to let me stay over because she didnt want me to drive home drunk.</p>

<p>any advice??</p>

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<p>Think of yourself as a freshman starting over again socially. Go to the activities fair, work out in the gym, get to your classes a little bit early so you can socialize, study in the library…basically, make sure you are interacting with people all over campus.</p>

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<p>The best way to make friends is to BE A FRIEND.</p>

<p>You mention medication…are you on depression or anxiety meds.</p>

<p>when you walk around campus, do you have a welcoming and friendly expression on your face? Do you make pleasant eye contact? Or do you look down or have a blank look on your face (or as my sister-therapist says, "is your default expression a “b**** face”?) Seriously, some people’s default expression on their face is UNFRIENDLY!!!</p>

<p>Do you join clubs?</p>

<p>When you’re with people, do you ask polite interested questions about their lives (not nosy, but light interested banter…where are you from? What’s your major? Do you like your classes so far? Who is your fav prof? Have you tried X restaurant? Have you seen the new XXX?) I don’t mean asking questions in a machine gun like fashion…that’s a turn off, too.</p>

<p>Are you well-groomed?</p>

<p>People who make friends easily have friendly expressions, are interested in other people’s lives, are empathetic, are helpful, etc.</p>