<p>Okay, I'm heading off to college in the fall. </p>
<p>One of my biggest concern is the fact that I have a big trust issue...esp. with guys. I've never had a boyfriend; although I've really, really liked guys, but every time they start to like me back, I stop liking them. I don't want to be called a tease/ prude anymore! It's so frustrating; I don't understand why my mind keeps doing these tricks...like how I always jump on to the fact that 'our possible relationship will NVR succeed' or I would just get plain scared. I don't really know what to do....how can I actually start to hang out (and enjoy) being with the guys I actually really like?</p>
<p>I've thought about seeing a professional next year. Since I'm going to college, I've thought about seeing a college counselor -affordable (free?), and they're supposed to be professionals too. Anyways, my other concern is that if I go to a small school, it'll spread quickly about me seeing a counselor....So I'm thinking, maybe it'll be better if I go to a big school (uni) ?</p>
<p>Sorry if this a bit incoherent; it's early and I'm typing on a different keyboard (not mine/ strange).</p>
<p>It sounds like some therapy wouldn't be a bad thing to help you with some cognitive challenging and work on your trust issues (which really sound more like a fear or anxiety than a "trust issue"). Going to a small school won't really make the whole thing about going to a psychologist or counselor that much of an issue. It's not like anyone's going to publicize it and you'd be surprised how many people go to mental health professionals. 80% of people will be diagnosed with a mental illness sometime in their lifetime!</p>
<p>hey gurl. =] im the exact same way.. my dad was a jerk and i think the way he treated me and my mom made me really not trust guys at all. when guys try to hit on me i always blow them off and ive never given any guy a chance. i want to change that wen i got to college too. im thinking about getting a therapist. i think i really need one. we just gotta keep reminding ourselves that guys are people too and we shouldnt let our fear of getting hurt prevent us from ever having a relationship with someone. you know what they say, better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all. oh and as for the size of the school, i dont think it'll really matter.</p>