Ok - just putting my thoughts out there - all opinions are my own, some of it is said with humor to lighten the mood - if you don’t agree, don’t get angry, just say so and laugh.
I have so many thoughts about the college admission process - about what I didn’t know, what I learned, what I learned too late and what I still don’t know, and that is after the full cycle is over. Maybe if I had a second child to go through it and a year or two to recuperate, we would see different results, but who knows. I won’t say better, because my daughter had fantastic results. The only nut she couldn’t crack was the ivy nut. But that is one place where I feel CC fails, because most of the advice I have seen over the past year on CC has been don’t bother, you have zero chance of acceptance. Or why bother, ivies suck anyway. I guess when there is so much incredible help on all other topics and so little help on applying to Ivies you just have to shrug, maybe they were right, or maybe it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy? Or maybe people secretly don’t want to help because they are trying to increase their own child’s chance? Or maybe they are past that point of worry because their kid already is a student or graduate, but they want to have this aura of mystique and superiority. (Saw a lot of that on the Harvard threads). But I digress…
I personally think the problem is the focus on the too much aspect of - the Try harder! - and I 100% blame the schools for that - the colleges, the high schools, the middle schools and even the elementary schools. Why do I blame the colleges most though? Because they are eating that garbage up. Student A has 50 ridiculous extra curriculars? Let’s look for student B with 100 ridiculous extra curriculars! Yes, 99 of them are meaningless, but they did 100! Student A plays the Oboe 20 hours a week and is on the aquatic fencing team too but absolutely hates both of those things! Fantastic! Does he/she also happen to know Mandarin or Farsi and teach proper ways to recycle caviar tins to homeless youths after school and is the President and Founder of the Left Handed Inter High School Picolo Club? We’ll take them and send them a likely letter to tell them how fantastic they are!
They need to let kids and teens go back to being kids and teens. I am ok with challenging academics. We are after all talking about schools and colleges and in this case elite colleges. You can study extremely hard and still be a teen. I don’t really have a problem with standardized tests because I think that at a basic level they set a bar, either you know the concepts or you don’t, and if you don’t know the concepts you are going to struggle at any college. But I also understand the push for test optional because not all school districts are created equal. Also, there is the factor of people who take years worth of prep courses to get their 1500-1600 score. A lot of people do not have the financial capability for that or the time - a lot of people don’t want to bother doing that. (My daughter could barely be bothered to take a practice test. For her taking the test was practice. I don’t intend that to mean she took it a bunch of times, she took it twice and hit that mid 1500 range superscore) I don’t think it matters if a student who shows excellent potential from a terrible school or school district received a 1300 on the SAT, to me that shows they will do fine, more so then the kid who took 4 years of SAT prep courses and got a 1500, in the best school district in the state. Colleges have enough information to understand this.
I have no problem with students playing sports they love, or instruments they love, or performing in plays, musical theater, ballet, singing - and putting these things on their college applications and writing about them in their essays if they want to. If their passion is animals or plants or whatever and they spend a lot of time on those things they love, then they should be allowed to do that. I wish that is what kids were allowed to do. But that isn’t what most kids are doing - they are being forced to play 3 or 4 sports they don’t enjoy, because one isn’t good enough. Orchestra? you must do marching band too. Debate, newspaper, Quiz bowls, mathletes, model UN, etc etc etc. It’s an epic race to have unreal resumes of tasks the schools, counselors, advisors or parents thought would look good for college admissions. What bugs me even more than the fact that people still force this on kids is that they are right, they do need it because colleges are still eating this up. But sorry Yale, Johnny didn’t really solve the hunger crisis in city Q or country X. No, Susie didn’t really do groundbreaking research that was instrumental in curing any disease. For that matter, Molly didn’t wake up one day and say, I want to learn how to fence, because she thinks that is the coolest sport ever. And most other kids don’t want to play 4 sports, they want to play one or maybe two. If I was on an admissions panel, I would look at some of these applications and just continually be like “are we really believing this? Next!” Anytime I felt something was insincere, a gimmick, I am clearly doing this to look like a saint on my college resume or to look amazing on my college resume, I would put them in the reject pile… or maybe the limbo that is waitlist land…
I wish it was more like this: I think academics and testing should make up the largest part of the admissions decision (which I think is the way all the rolling admission schools roll…) because at the end of the day you are talking about admission into an academic institution. Not a personality club, not a glee club, not a community service organization and again, in regard to this thread they were mainly talking about elite institutions. Followed by the essays, letters of recommendation, and interviews if there are interviews. The essays, interviews and LoRs are where the AOs can factor in intangibles and those things that they want to build their class for their stated mission and goals. I think the real issue in the try harder is the ECs and the Community Service aspect of the application. I think the extra curriculars should be an important part, but it should be more contained. Maybe limit how many ECs students can put on their applications because not everybody has the same opportunities to even participate in ECs. I truly believe some schools (and some scholarships) have algorithms to discard applicants who don’t meet a threshold number of extra-curriculars and particularly extracurriculars that take place at school. Rather than say pummel me with a list of 400 ECs, list your two most important ECs or even just 1 most important EC. Tell how much time you spent on it and what you did. I feel like an essay should be mandatory about one extra-curricular and why it was important to you. Community Service I think should just be removed from the whole application process for so many reasons - which is a whole different thread. But if people think CS is important for kids to learn, then make it a requirement every year as part of your graduation requirements - 1 to 2 hours per semester or something - not the ridiculous things that are going on, that once again shows the disparity between those with means and those without. Is it really fair for example that Student A has “400 hours of community service folding blankets at ye olde billionaires’ retirement home” when Student B goes home to a house that often has no electricity, heat or food? Should she be doing 400 or 40 or even 4 hours of community service? Because I kind of think the fact that she is still getting to school in the morning and finishing high school is amazing. Should a student who is practically homeless and has no food be volunteering at a homeless shelter or food bank for the sake of padding their application with community service hours? But for some reason colleges eat all this community service stuff up. I also think schools that insist on holistic admissions, should require a 3–4 minute video introduction by the applicant to do with however they please. The only requirement should be no super tools, heavy editing, super special effects, graphics, etc. It should be plain and simple, the student should be able to do it with a simple laptop, phone or tablet, introducing me in whatever way I feel like. Whether that be talking to the camera, doing a soliloquy from Shakespeare, singing, hitting 25 3-point shots in a row, skateboarding, break dancing, ballet, showing off your artwork, talking about your favorite tv show, author or book, whatever. Something for them to get to know you before they toss you in the midden heap in favor of some sub-par niece of a $50M donor.
Just to append on at the end to address Mwolf’s post above: no, they don’t have to change their process - and I touched on this some. But the bottom line is, the process is broken, because it is breaking children. It is also broken because I consider it to be largely fabrication - you aren’t getting real applicants you are getting products of what kids think schools want to see or what they think they need to be, to be accepted, rather than who they are. This is why a lot of students struggle and fail in colleges across the board, not just ivies and top 10s. They have created a product and get to college and realize they don’t even know who they are or what they really want to do or be.