Trying to have a fresh start and looking for advice

Greetings everyone,

I’m in a pretty tough situation, and is trying to come up a plan for myself. Please take a look at my situation and any advice would be greatly appreciated.

I’m an international student from China and got into a decent liberal art college in upstate new york couple years back. I did well there and had good grade for the first year, than family things hit me. My fiancee cheated on me, and I was not mature enough to handle it and failed one class. (Fortunately my overall gpa was still not bad, 3.5+) Family back home was also on fire. Business screwed up and I can’t afford the 70k tuition anymore.

I thought community colleges are cheap and the ones in California had deals with UCs, so I told myself I’ll transfer to a CC in Cali, get myself together, and transfer to one of the UCs. It didn’t work out very well. Family things back home hitted me again. Parents divorced and my mother was hospitalized multiple times, and I just couldn’t do it anymore. I was tired. I spend the next two years taking nonsense classes to maintain my student status and keeping myself from doing anything stupid. GPA nosedived to 2.0.

My grandfather was diagnosed with a terminal disease couple weeks back, and all the sudden I feel like the burden is gone. There is a buddist koan about waking someone up with a blow and a shout, and maybe this is the case for me. I realized at least I’m still alive and healthy, and it’s probably going to stay that way for a while so what about I get myself together and do something with my life.

I’m not a bad student. I had good grade in highschool, and decent grade first year in my college. I took the new SAT recently and scored 1550, which should prove that I still have the potential to success in college. I didn’t completely waste my two year in Cali as well. I was the local outreach leader for one of the presidential candidates during 2016 election(I’m a political science major). I also learned to trade equity derivatives on my own and was actually pretty successful. I think long as the admission overlook my failure at CC a bit, I should remain rather competitive.

Here’s what I’m going to do.

First, I’ll try to get in touch with my old school to see if they can offer any FA for me. I was a student there and the professors there know me, so there should be a better chance of them trusting me.

Second, I’ll start searching for small, private schools that are generous about FAs. I’ll have a lot of explaning to do, and I don’t think people at bigger public schools will listen to me. I’ll also get in touch with their admissions early on, as they might offer some advice for me.

Third, I’ll get the best grade I can get from now on.

My deepest gratitute for anyone who read the whole post. Thanks for your time, and please leave some advice for me if you wouldn’t mind.

well speaking of the maturity and sat and college and all, the advice that i want to give to you is,
1)spend time with your family including sibling and friends in your hometown so you can get emotional help
from your family sometimes your father is the strength you are looking for…
2)spend time on why do i need a college degree? if you think about your friends in china or in korea you know you are
already well ahead of them becuase you learned new culture and langugae that is compatible with any country. so don’t worry. just think about what you need to do and what you need to be careful in those situation…
3)start exercise
4)go to ehtnic church
5)have a trip overseas…

thats all iknow but thank you for listening
msg me if any question…

srry i didn’t mean to get rude please ignore thise msg …T-T

can’t erase this thing

I’m sorry for all your losses. It is very difficult to handle family trouble from such a distance. From your post you sound like a resilient and resourceful person. I am sure that you will make the appropriate practical decisions to move your life along, and I predict a successful future for you. Hugs.

You have a 2.0 now. You need to go home and deal with the emotional, family, and business issues. Then when you can afford to pay the full cost of your education, you can come back to the US and finish your degree. You will not get good financial aid anywhere as an international transfer with a 2.0.

However, there are many places that will admit you as a transfer if you can afford the full cost of attendance. So look for places that have your major and fit your budget.

Thanks everyone for your time and advices. I’ll take them to heart.

What are you looking to major in and what budget?

I’m looking to major in political science and for budget the max I can afford would be 15k a year. I don’t think there are four year college that will both take me and cost only this much though.