Thanks guys, I really appreciate everyone’s kindness in explaining this to me, and your gracious comments about my post. The last official word from the school is that yes, they want the inheritance, and that’s why the increased EFC, despite my lower income. We don’t do itemized deductions because we don’t have enough; you have to spend more to save when it comes to itemizing. We had hoped to use the inheritance for retirement, but that won’t be happening. If you think that’s a grand retirement, I guess we’re coming from different places!
Yes, kid could do a cheap public college as suggested, but I’ve seen many top students unhappy with that choice, since they’re underchallenged and have few peers at their education level. Kid has 4.3 gpa, 1540 SAT, 9th in their Hs class. I’ve heard some students talk about public universities as just an extension of high school, and they really hate it. All they get is a piece of paper, not a challenging education. In this case, Free kittens are only sort of free. I’m sure that quality issue has been well debated elsewhere on CC! So, based on our values, and because we can, we will probably give up some of our retirement on this one.
I still maintain that the formula for calculating family contribution should be accessible to the applicant, and it isn’t. No, not quite the same as mysterious medical costs charged after the fact, but the final college price calculation is still a secret and that sucks. Both are highly negotiable- medical costs and college costs - but it’s challenging to know the outermost limits. They have the big advantage, in both cases. Yes, as posted earlier in the thread, profile schools can assess your situation however they wish, and you don’t get to know how they did it.
One more clue I managed to get from the school is that they are also looking at my retirement contributions, so because I save a lot, that’s being considered an available asset too. Not the money already saved, presumably, but my annual contributions. Lots of factors are going into their offer, and I don’t have access to it. I have some of the numbers, but they have an analysis of those numbers which isn’t given to me. Again, I think secrecy sucks. I want to see the actual math. Seems fair to me.