Turning acquaintances into friends

<p>College social life for me hasn’t been easy. Its not bad at all. But it is not as fun for me as I hoped it would be. Last semester I came to college with this huge expectation of making friends immediately, being close to all the people in my hall, being invited to go out on weekends etc….But then reality hit me like a bullet. None of that happened. I went to orientation and I didn’t have fun like I hoped. Luckily I did meet my one friend there. Since then we have been pretty close. But she is all I have. I’m not good at making friends. I’m not even sure HOW to make friends!!! I feel like all the friends I had in high school were given to me. I’m just a little worried because its already mid March and I haven’t made too much progress. </p>

<p>I do have two other friends who I met through work off campus. I hang out a lot with them. But they go to different schools. They’re also both guys. (I would like to have more girl friends here at my own school so I can relate to them more.) And they both have a crush on me, so its not really the same thing as having a real friend. </p>

<p>There is this girl who I sit next to in class. She’s really nice. We always talk. I kinda have a feeling that she doesn’t have a lot of close friends here on campus either since she’s a commuter. I want to ask her if she wants to hangout or eat lunch together. Or I was thinking about asking her if she wanted to add me on FB. But I don’t know what to say lol. (Don’t judge me! I never had to worry about this stuff in high school!) I don’t want to come off as creepy or needy. Any tips? I am a bit shy. So I know I have to push myself more.</p>

<p>I think your best bet would be to first add her on FB. I don’t see why you’d have to ask permission just to add her! Asking to hang out or eat lunch together would also be a great way to get to know her. Don’t overthink it, just be friendly and hopefully you hit it off!</p>

<p>Since she commutes she might appreciate having a friend on campus. You can also let her know that if she needs to stay over like bad weather or early project, she could stay with you. If your dorm has an activity or there’s something late night she might not normally do because she commutes, you could invite her.</p>