@pickledginger - Yes, it is a delicate balancing act, isn’t it? And, ultimately, it’s your son that’s going to have to figure out how best to balance things in his life and what his priorities are intellectually, academically, and socially. And, oftentimes, compromises have to be made, but ultimately, he’ll end up where he belongs.
D went to a private school with many wealthy families with trend toward pre-professionalism and a dearth of students seeking to revel in “the life of the mind.” While there was a cadre of high achieving students, she was ultimately frustrated with the lack of intellectual vitality among the student body at her H.S. After spending last summer at TASP, she realized that what she wanted more than anything was a diverse group of intellectually curious, bright, engaged, and collaborative students. And, of course, we were seeking merit and/or hoping for some FA. She knew that she did NOT want a highly competitive, cut-throat environment, but a more nurturing and collaborative one. She, too, has had issues with stress as well as some health issues, so she has had to learn how to juggle things in her life (which sometimes meant not doing as many activities or taking as many classes as she might have otherwise liked to have done). Initially, she hadn’t really considered tippy top (HYPSC) schools, but that changed over time (and with acceptances ;-))
What I suggest is for your son to cast a wide net and to try to spend some time at some the schools he’s interested in. The notion of not having academic credentials went out the window with a 1590 SAT. With a solid academic record, superb essays and excellent recommendations, he should do pretty well with admissions and, hopefully, merit.
And you’re fortunate that you’re instate for CA publics.
Among the schools that you mentioned originally, Macalester, Occidental, Pitt, and Oregon Honors all sound like good possibilities. (And Rice, of course). How would he feel about a rural school? If that’s not a turnoff, I’d suggest looking at Oberlin, Grinnell, and Kenyon. (Grinnell and Kenyon are free to apply and don’t require essays – although Grinnell will hit you with asking you to do a 100 word “Why Grinnell?” after you’ve applied). I’d consider CMC and/or Pitzer which both give merit, but perhaps not enough to make them worthwhile. You might want to look at Brandeis outside Boston – they offer up to $17.5K merit (a drop in the bucket off a $70K price tag). George Washington, in addition to its Foggy Bottom urban location with what I would hardly consider a campus, also has a Mount Vernon campus with an honors college dorm. And D.C. is a great town. But even with merit, both G.W. and American are not inexpensive. I’d also look at Whitman – great school, but not sure if Walla Walla is in your son’s radar.
One school my D applied to that I think is a hidden gem is the New College of Florida – it’s a public honors college in Sarasota, very small and highly intellectual (no grades - written evaluations, senior theses, etc.) Not sure if their merit is strictly tied to NMF – it may be.I know how your son feels about Texas, so I won’t say UT’s Plan II Honors (if you’re going to lobby for Texas, Rice is a better bet). Another excellent honors program with the possibility for scholarships is the Banneker/Key at U Maryland; applications are due Nov. 1st. And, if S’s school is a nominating school, you can’t beat UVA’s Jefferson (that will take some power interviewing, however and is very, very hard to get). Emory Scholars and Richmond Scholars are also quite generous scholarships. (Altanta is in the south, but it’s pretty metropolitan.) And I know you’re looking into Wash U. (another personal favorite among D17’s merit options).
One last option – has S considered any Canadian schools? UBC, U. Toronto, and McGill are great schools and less $$ – even for Americans – than some private schools here.
As for U.Chicago, yes, it is an amazing school and belongs in your radar. It is probably is pretty intense and the quarter system might add to the stress, but, like anything, it can be manageable. And its reputation of “where fun goes to die” has slowly dissipated. And it is an amazing school. Merit may be hard to get, but it’s worth a shot. Again, his essays are going to be crucially important there – and everywhere!