Twin advice?

<p>Im a first timer with a question for anyone who has twins who applied to BS. I have boy/girl twins who applied to three of the same boarding schools. They were both accepted to two (hotchkiss, nmh), still waiting to hear from Andover. They are both very interested in Hotchkiss, but also really don't want to go to the same school--they've done that their whole lives and are ready to get some space and independence. Does anyone have twins in the same BS? Can you share with me your experiences? I'm eager to know how others have managed this. Thanks!</p>

<p>I am not the parent of twins, but I do know three parents of twins with kids at BS.
In my very small, statistically non-significant sample:

  • fraternal twin brothers, both at the same BS for the last 3 years (they are seniors), both with their own identities/interests/groups of friends. They applied to and were accepted at 3 schools, and considered going to different schools, but ultimately both liked the same school best, and ended up together
  • girl/boy twins, both seniors, one at BS, one at home in public school
  • identical twin brothers, freshmen, both at different BS within the same state</p>

<p>I expect it all comes down to what your twins want. I do know that it is logistically easier to have siblings at the same school, but there are many parents of siblings (not necessarily twins) who juggle the demands of having children at different schools. We have two kids in BS - one in CA, one in MI, and it definitely creates some interesting scheduling challenges! But they are both where they need to be, in schools that are a great fit, and that’s what matters most to us.</p>

<p>There are several twins at our dd’s bs. With the ones I know of:
-twin boys who room together
-twin boys who do not room together and are not in the same dorm
-twin girls, one at the school on at home school
-twin girls who do not room together and are in different dorms</p>

<p>Our kids are close… just a year apart. Older at bs. Younger thought about applying to same school but changed his mind. They are VERY close, but older one glad sibling not there…likes the independence in general and feels protective of sibling and would have felt the need to be sure he was doing okay socially and academically. Younger one said if he were going to go to bs, would only go to school where sibling is . </p>

<p>In your case, I would remind them that they really can build different/separete lives at bs, especially being of different genders. If they both REALLY want the same school, I would encourage them to pick the school they want vs. simply picking the school where the sibling is NOT going. They will be so busy making friends, playing sports, handling school work, adjusting to their dorm, roommates, etc. that they won’t have much time to worry about sibling interference (but they might be glad to have sibling support when it is time to travel home on break, when they lose their debit card, when they are sick, etc.). They can think of all of the negatives of having their twin there. But have they thought of the postives of it…and of the negatives of going to a school they are not excited about to avoide their sibling.</p>

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