"uhh sorry, what was your name again?"

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<p>Here is a tip:
When you meet someone and talk to them, chances are the two of you learned each other's names at the beginning of the conversation. At the end of the conversation, say, it was great talking to you. Help me out, tell me your name one more time, and he will say, "I'm Fred Flintstone," and you say, "Great, Thanks, and I'm Barney Rubble" - do this whether you remember his name or not, he won't be offended, and this will help him remember your name. This is a tip I learned for meetings - to try to get someone's name again at the end of a conversation with him. You just smile and say "tell me your name one more time" and smile again. Many of us are not good at remembering names and it is easier to recall someone's name if you have something to store in your brain with it (the memory of the nice conversation you just had with him).</p>

<p>Repeat: "Many of us are not good at remembering names."</p>

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<p>Look 'em in the eyes when you introduce yourself and/or shake their hand. Sounds a little ridiculous but it'll help. Otherwise, don't worry so much. Most people suck at remembering names.</p>

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Here is a tip:
When you meet someone and talk to them, chances are the two of you learned each other's names at the beginning of the conversation. At the end of the conversation, say, it was great talking to you. Help me out, tell me your name one more time, and he will say, "I'm Fred Flintstone," and you say, "Great, Thanks, and I'm Barney Rubble" - do this whether you remember his name or not, he won't be offended, and this will help him remember your name. This is a tip I learned for meetings - to try to get someone's name again at the end of a conversation with him. You just smile and say "tell me your name one more time" and smile again. Many of us are not good at remembering names and it is easier to recall someone's name if you have something to store in your brain with it (the memory of the nice conversation you just had with him).

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This sounds like a good idea, I'll have to try it out.</p>

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<p>I'm awful at remembering names. I definitely fall under the category of people that might offend you, but I honestly have trouble remembering people's names. Just think that it is embarrassing for people like us to not remember other people's names. I do feel bad when people come up to me the next day or a week later and start talking to me and I don't remember their names. </p>

<p>OTOH, I don't feel bad when I don't learn everyone's name in my class. Recently, I never made the connection that a kid from one of my clubs was also in my chemistry class of 15. Equally embarrassing for him, he called me a name I wasn't. I don't think I've had a class, except for my freshmen seminar, where I can safely say I knew everyone's names.</p>

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<p>what is your name??? someone already asked this and you didn't reply...</p>

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<p>i ownt remember your name but i will remeber exactly what we talked about and some random fact like you have a grandmother who lives in north dakota and who makes you fish. its not a big deal, you just say sorry im terrible with names and you both laugh it off. honestly its not insulting.</p>

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<p>I never remember people's names, especially girls.</p>

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<p>Yeah, I thought I was pretty good with names...until I came to college. Most of the time, I don't bother asking though, I'll just wait and see if somebody else calls them, or if the teacher calls them or whatever and I'll try to catch their name again, at which point I (usually) manage to retain it.</p>

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<p>I was in a four person lab group and two of these guys' names both started with the same letter. So I called them by their first names but both mixed up, then I got called on it and apologized. Sometimes you just don't get things right, people can have similar names(you said yours was plain monosyllabic or something). </p>

<p>Another name story I have is when I met this girl who had some sort of speech impediment so it was hard for me to understand her name when she first told me. She didn't correct me and another person who I became friends with told me I was calling her the wrong name(for half a year). So then I called her the right name from then on. Maybe you got a speech problem or that other person who mentioned your name does.</p>

<p>On the other end, a person I sat next to senior year in physics class of HS had selective memory and forgot me promptly when HS was over. Most of the time when you run into these people, they usually weren't worth your time in the first place.</p>

<p>If you want to be on even footing, don't start out the conversation with their name, because you can usually tell if they don't know who you are or are fishing for a name in their heads(watch the eyes, even if its a hot chick and your eyes tend to meet her chest). If they forget your name, you can always mention where you met them and say you forgot their name, what is it again? This'll usually prompt a reciprocal name asking. If you want to insult them, call them by another name, and when they tell you their real name, say "Really? You don't look like a <insert> you look like a <insert>."</insert></insert></p>

<p>Also, 4321234's name is Wazzafas.. easy enough to get confused with whatsherface ;) 4321234 don't freak out that was a joke.</p>

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<p>I am <em>awful</em> at remembering names. I'm a very visual person and if I see them with a name tag once, I've usually got it, but if not... it's hopeless. Sometimes I struggle with my family's names, seriously, it's awful.</p>

<p>What's really awful, is that I speak in public and lots of folks know my name and I've never met them. They come up and say, "Hi Huguenot" and start talking and I'm in full panic mode knowing my incredible stupidity about names, about to have a heart attack until they say, "Oh, you don't know me, I heard you..." Arrrrgggghhhh. Takes years off my life.</p>

<p>That doesn't seem to be the real problem here, though. Calling someone "what's her face" in front of her is just plain rude! I'd just say, "My name is _____. What's yours? [Even if you know it.]" Repeat as necessary until they get the message.</p>

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its not a big deal, you just say sorry im terrible with names and you both laugh it off. honestly its not insulting.

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well said :)</p>

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<p>I am horrible at remembering names, but I like to think that I'm a fairly nice person. I definitely don't mean to insult people.</p>

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does anybody else experience this problem with people who just can't seem to remember your name... or who just can't seem to care to remember your name. i always found this really rude... i couldn't tell if people were doing this on purpose or not. i mean, i always took the effort to learn people's names, even if i don't talk to them, and i do know many people's names. but they'd just look at me funny. ... like, who the hell are you? i find this trend really popular among Americans too. i mean, my name is an easy, one syllable, common name, and they're just like, i can't remember your name! even foreigners and international students can remember my name the second they meet me. i guess i'm just because it's so easy for me to remember names, but nobody seems to care enough to remember me. i mean, i'm in their class, for christ's sake! they're either crappy observers or people who think they're way too important to remember another human being. gosh.

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<p>I can never remember people's names. It's the only thing I have trouble with and I have to keep asking. Don't take it personally but your name isn't top priority for most people.</p>

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Wazzafas.

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LOL</p>

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<p>Try not to take it personally- hmmm I should follow my own advice haha.</p>

<p>I remember this girl I've known since literally pre-school and in a high school gym class she saw me and was like,"Are you new?" For some reason it really bothered me haha</p>

<p>I can't remember names myself unless they're unusual.</p>

<p>I kept on mixing up my old boss's name, I still don't know if it's Dave or Dan or Dale and he corrected me about 5 times. It's embarrassing!</p>

<p>And on the other side, actually remembering and using someone's name when they don't remember using yours is embarrassing too.</p>

<p>I used to work at a bookstore and this same sweet little old lady came in a lot. Everyone I worked with knew her name and talked to her regularly. I had been working there for MONTHS speaking to her at least once a week. One day she came in and I used her name for a change. I said something like "Hello Mrs. Warner!" And she had a look of horror and said "Do I KNOW you???" I think I should note that I'm not a creepy old guy, I'm a rather normal/pretty teenage girl so her reaction was strange- as if I were trying to stalk her!</p>

<p>It was awful! I mean, I had spent so much time talking and ordering books for her. I entered her name in for orders and got holds for her all the time so it's natural I'd know who she was. But apparently she had no memory of me but could remember my co-workers. I was a little offended as I'd helped her out more often than others.</p>

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<p>Hey people, do you like my name?</p>

<p>Pronounced (Ay-you-b)</p>

<p>be honest!</p>

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caz i am okay.

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why do i have to get over myself. i think i'm important enough to be remembered so screw you!

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<p>lmao mods</p>

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<p>OP: If you'd just met the person or hasn't really had any contact, then it's not on purpose. It all has to do with memory; the main way we consolidate STM into LTM is through associating it with meaning -no contact equals no meaning. Therefore, it'll be hard for people to remember the names of others who they really haven't had any meaningful relationship with (aka just met). </p>

<p>I pretty much skip the last three/four pages, so I apologize if I'm repeating anything anyone had previously said. </p>

<p>STM-Short term memory LTM - Long term memory</p>

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<p>lol. whyd you put STM and LTM if you were just going to define it in the bottom? and have to write it again??
its the simple things in life that are nice : )</p>

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<p>I am terrific with faces but terrible with names. Upon first meeting people, I usually forget their names within seconds after they introduce themselves, but I remember their faces forever. </p>

<p>I have a problem remembering people’s names, especially when I run into someone I haven’t seen in a long time, and/or when I must introduce people to each other. (One time, while introducing my daughter to an old friend of mine, I “forgot” my daughter’s name. Another time, during an introduction, I "forgot" my own name!) I have tried various memory-training techniques to fix this problem, without success. I do my best to accommodate this problem. I tell new acquaintances that I have trouble remembering names. I ask new acquaintances to repeat their names. After meeting a new acquaintance, I rush to write the person’s name down (if I can still remember it). Whenever I encounter someone whose name I have forgotten, I greet the person warmly, immediately reintroduce myself and then say, “I’m sorry, but I have forgotten your name.” I am genuinely apologetic, and so, most (but not all) of the people whose names I have forgotten have not been personally offended by my social shortcoming.</p>

<p>My name--which I have always despised because it is incongruous with my physical appearance and my personality--is difficult to spell and to pronounce. It is also difficult to remember. Many people have trouble remembering my name, and I usually do not take personal offense when someone forgets my name. However, I do take personal offense when someone who has unintentionally forgotten my name neglects to offer an apology (however cursory), and when someone playing a social one-upmanship game pretends to have forgotten my name. </p>

<p>There is a huge difference between forgetting a person’s name and forgetting a person. There is also a huge difference between unintentional social gaffes and intentionally rude social behavior. It is likely that most of the people (including your classmates) who have not made the effort to learn and remember your name (even though you have learned and remember their names) have not intended to dismiss or disrespect you. However, the people in the meeting (which you mentioned in Post #29) who repeatedly referred to you as “what’s her face,” sound as though they were intentionally behaving rudely, and if so, then you were entirely justified in taking personal offense at their social misconduct.</p>

<p>I wish I had your knack for remembering people’s names; that knack would save me a lot of awkward social moments. However, I am one of many people who have trouble remembering names. Many of us do our best to remember names, but our “best” often isn’t good enough. People like us don’t intend to offend people like you, which is the reason many of us will extend an apology to those people whose names we have unintentionally forgotten. </p>

<p>My advice to you is: Whenever another person forgets your name, before getting angry and taking personal offense, first try to determine if the person is simply someone who has trouble remembering names, or if the person is being intentionally dismissive, disrespectful, and rude. </p>

<p>Please have patience for people like me; we don’t intend to offend. As for those people who do intend to offend… they’re not worth your time and attention. Forget them. </p>

<p>Best wishes.</p>