<p>"but on average, we’re less likely to be fat "</p>
<p>hahha this is definitely true. The whole idea of attractive is different in nyc. here all the girls aim to be sleek and dainty. Whenever I travel people tell me I look like I’m about to break, but here its considered elegant. I think it comes down to inherent cultural difference: in nyc you can find people to do everything for you like cook and deliver your food, clean your house, bring you a selection of dresses from the store around the corner. The ultimate status symbol is to have everything done for you so you can work out, plan your diet, and socially claw yourself onto the right philanthropic committees using your husband/daddy’s checkbook. In essence the goal is to be completely dependent. In other places I’ve found a higher value placed on self sufficiency and survival - being skinny means that you physically aren’t “durable”. </p>
<p>that was a tangent, but its something I’ve been thinking about a lot ever since I got home and suddenly I went from being on the thinner side of the people around me to being the biggest person on the block because all of the woman around me spend their lives working out and shopping. </p>
<p>I would say a fairly high percentage of the girls are unattractive/overweight/just dont care about their looks, but there are plenty of girls (mostly in the greek system) that are very pretty or at least know how to groom themselves well enough to make it seem as if they are pretty. At parties I would say a decent number of the girls are fairly attractive.</p>
<p>…you’re making it sound like people in NYC live lives like in Gossip Girl or something, when there’s no end of poor people here. But I guess if you come from a very wealthy area, it’s a valid point. It’s not like all women in NYC/LI are skinny - just less likely to be obese, that’s all. And obese is hardly “physically durable”. People who work out/eat better are more physically durable. The ideal look in NY is not stick-thin though, like it is in L.A/hollywood or whatever.</p>
<p>My D is a J at Cornell. She has a major and minor (minor is in information science, i.e.she is a computer geek Will not mention major because it may be easier to identify her). She has 3 jobs (one being a TA), does volunteer work and is a dancer in one of the groups on campus. Her GPA is close to a 4.0. She was also an intern at Goldman Sachs last summer. So Cornell has been good for her.</p>
<p>She is also very thin, works out 5 days a week (besides dancing) and has been described as “drop dead gorgeous” since about age 2 from strangers, family and friends. On Valentine’s Day there would be multiple deliveries of flowers and/or candy.</p>
<p>She would definitely be offended by some of the above threads. (Most recent ones for sure) She would call them “stupid” and wonder how some people got into Cornell. </p>
<p>So the point is that there are shallow and intellectual people at Cornell. It is a small city with a diversified group of people. Do not expect NYC, Chicago or LA. Do expect a great education and a lot of experiences if you take advantage. (Anywhere you go, you should take advantage, btw.)</p>
<p>Ok, so you have a hot, smart, hard-working daughter - good job with that. If you’re offended at any of the above comments, I think you need to relax and try to be less politically correct 24/7. Someone stated they don’t like LI/NYC girls, and I asked why. Someone else agreed with me that NY women are less likely to be obese (that’s a statistical fact). What is there to be offended about? I’m sorry if you were, but I don’t get it.</p>
<p>Unless you were offended when someone asked if there are cute girls at Cornell - I get you’re a mom, but college students do talk about this stuff…I doubt an intelligent person like your daughter would be offended by that</p>
<p>And I also think morrismm just wanted an opportunity to extol her daughter.
But I have no problem with that, since I’d be really proud of a kid like that if I were a parent.
Kudos :)</p>
<p>morrismm, I think you need to be careful about the underlying assumptions in your comments. I’m in the college of engineering, participate in many extracurricular activities, and held many leadership positions in high school. It’s great that your daughter has done so well at cornell, but I’m not sure why that would make her take offense.</p>
<p>It’s up to you to judge the quality of manhattan standards and values, but it would be very ignorant of you to argue that they do not exist in many subsets of the population.</p>
<p>resurgam - yeah materialistic chicks are a turn off, and spoiled daddy’s girls…I’ve met my fair share of them. I get what you mean, because I grew up on a wealthy town in LI…but that’s hardly the majority of girls…i guess where you find rich people, you’ll find obnoxious shopoholics. </p>
<p>I kinda feel the same way about guys from the south/midwest because of the stereotypes about them, not that they’re always true…but in the end it’s your individual personality, not where you’re from that matters.</p>
<p>morrismm - of course you should be proud, nothing wrong with that…what did you find so ignorant?</p>
<p>I grew up in a rural Upstate NY town of 2,000 people …Ithaca certainly isn’t NYC…but I don’t consider it rural…but I do agree with the fact that, for some students, traveling to and from Ithaca can be cumbersome/expensive…my sophomore year roomie complained about it all the time :-)</p>
<p>stargazer-I’m psyched! I can’t believe they showed some country awards instead of DH. If there’s one good thing about the weekend ending (except getting a Cornell decision eventually), it’s DH.</p>
<p>And I don’t mind morrismm’s post, my own goal is to do that well in college and life in general, and I’m turned off by the manhattan, shopaholic, starve-yourself-on-salad kind of girls. But there are a ton of NYC girls who are awesome and a ton of upstate NY girls who are awful. So yeah, it comes down to the individual person and not their geographic location.</p>
<p>Lol that’s not what I meant by that… the salad was just a reference to the specific type of NYC/LI girl who does that.
I like salad, I could use some more of it haha</p>
<p>If it’s shallow to ask if there are cute girls at college, you better just damn the male species, because this is physiologically unavoidable (without castration). I would agree that it would be shallow if that was the basis for a relationship or something, but that’s something else altogether. I’m sorry the daughter would be offended…it’s not nice to call people stupid though.</p>
<p>I honestly doubt the daughter would be offended because she’s a college student around young guys in their late teens/early twenties so it’s nothing unusual lol. </p>
<p>I think it’s funny you have this rich-anorexic girl Manhattan stereotype…NYC is so socioeconomically diverse…you have the filthy rich and the destitute living side-by-side on a small island…the girls here are not all like the girls on sex and the city lol. I could benefit from salad…considering 2/3 of this country is obese/overweight, we all could lol…being healthy isn’t being anorexic</p>