Undergrad wanting to date a Grad student

College Life
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<p>I noticed a guy at my college’s gym who I would see all the time. I smiled at him and he said hi, and the next day, he initiated a conversation with me. We would see each other there a couple days a week and talk for about 20 minutes. He’s 28 ,a grad student, and I’m 19. He SEEMED to show a lot of interest in me, he would remember EVERYTHING i told him, he would always ask me how my midterms or papers went, and he would look at me for a long time and smile and laugh at everything I said. This went on for several weeks, but he never asked me for my number.
School ended, so I added him on Facebook and messaged him. We messaged for about a month, then I casually brought up hiking because it was something he showed interest in. I said that I always wanted to go but could never find anyone willing to go with me, hint hint. He never replied after this! Should I talk to him if I see him when school starts or is he not into me? I developed really strong feelings for him </p>

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<p>I mean, if you run into him by chance, you can say hi and make small talk, but it seems to me that he’s not interested in a relationship. Honestly, that age gap on its own is probably a reason why he would not be interested. Many people are interested in settling down around age 28 (aka marriage, starting a family), which is most likely not on your radar yet at 19</p>

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<p>It’s possible that he’s just being nice but isn’t interested in dating you. It’s nothing personal, but you are 19 years old. Guys are capable of listening and being nice without wanting to wanting to date you.</p>

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<p>It sounds like he realized a harmless flirtation (for him) had finally gone too far. The age gap you’re looking at is maybe larger than you realize. You’ve been an adult for a year or two. He’s been one for roughly half your life.</p>

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<p>It sounds like more of a mentor/mentee relationship. Grad students often like working with undergrads and helping them on their academic journey. </p>

<p>I’d move on. He’s almost certainly not interested in you like that from the sounds of it. </p>