I completely understand all the frustration and even bitterness. My son is an auto admit who did not get his 1st or 2nd choice major. He worked his butt off in one of the competitive 6A schools with over 700 kids to be in the top 3%. 14 APs, etc., etc. just like a lot of kids who didn’t get in at all. I am an alum, so it stings a lot. He feels rejected even though he’s in. He is in a better position than many, and for that I’m grateful, but it is still disappointing. There are a lot of disappointed kids both in-state and OOS, capped, rejected, auto admits not put in either major, but I’ve also seen a lot of good advice on here.
Once they get over the initial shock/disappointment, carefully weigh all the options–particularly CAP kids who do not want to be in COLA. I remember when I heard about CAP several years ago I thought it was a fantastic option and thought that if one of my kids wanted UT and did not get in that CAP would be a great way to go, but as I’ve learned more about it, I do not think it is a great option for kids who want to major in anything outside the COLA. I believe it was @texmommm who explained it very well in one of the above posts. I do not know if this is true or not, but I read somewhere that only about 33% of the kids who chooses CAP end up at UT Austin. That is for a myriad of reasons including they decide they like the UT campus they are at.
The parent who said their kids was admitted to University of Illinois with in-state tuition–WOW! I don’t even know why you’d want your student to go to UT. lol They will all be ok and many will end up happy their plan did not work out precisely. My kid is waiting to hear from other schools, so UT is not the top choice as I once thought it would be (if he had gotten his 1st choice major, it would be over and he’d definitely be “Gone to Texas”), which is sad for me because I would love him to be at my alma mater and for him because he loves UT and Austin, but he will be fine. He may yet end up at UT, but wherever they all end up, I hope they all thrive, and I’m sure they will. Kids are more resilient than adults, so he will probably get over more quickly than I will.
For the parents of kids who did get in, is there a Facebook group for families of admitted students? I know there is one for the admitted students themselves. My son was also admitted to Purdue and they have a family FB page that is fantastic where the administrators are people from Purdue Admissions who answer questions for parents and give out great information. I must say that Purdue was not super high on MY list for my son to go (since we have absolutely no ties to Indiana)–not that he cares about MY list necessarily, but I have been super impressed with their responsiveness and how I feel like I’m getting a lot of information directly from the school. This has made Purdue climb in my affection if nothing else. I have not yet found anything similar for Texas.