Hi all–it’s been a long while since I last posted here. My twins graduated from college a couple of years ago, and my youngest (DD20) is currently a junior at Pitt.
DD20 called today to let me know she needs to come home. She’s struggled with depression and anxiety (and ADD) since starting at Pitt two years ago, and she’s held on through a combination of therapy, meds, family support, and sheer bravado. She no longer feels able to cope, and I’m proud of her for realizing she needs help. Had we known she’d be stricken with depression & anxiety, we’d have collectively decided she should attend college closer to home (Maryland), but she was generally fine until fall 2016.
I’m not sure what comes next. I know there are posters here who’ve dealt with mental health issues relating to their children, and I’d love support. DD20 desperately wants to earn her college degree and is upset that she has to take this step.
I’ve been in touch with Pitt to request medical leave, and I’m waiting to hear back from someone (I left a message this afternoon). DD20 has texted the person from whom she’s subletting an apartment, just in case a new tenant can be found; I realize we’re responsible for paying the rent through December 31, though. (It was only a fall sublet, because DD20 had intended to study abroad in the spring.)
I know there needs to be a plan. We’ll all be meeting with DD20’s local therapist ASAP, and I know DD20 should have responsibilities. Nothing is worse for depression than sleeping all day and having no plans or goals (I take meds for depression, so I have experience with this awful disease).
Should she work part- or full-time? Should she begin classes at a local college in the spring? Should she take only 1 class at a time?
She was a top student in her science/tech high school, but the mental health issues have taken their toll. Her cumulative GPA is now 2.94 as a Biological Sciences major, and at least one class likely won’t transfer (a D in Calculus). She has 75 credits, or 71 credits minus the Calculus class. Even though she was originally admitted to University of Maryland College Park, it seems unlikely they’d accept her as a transfer student without a sky-high GPA, right? What should she do in order to look attractive to colleges as a transfer student? She doesn’t want to take too much time off, as momentum is important to her.
Deeply grateful thanks for any and all suggestions!