@collegemom3717 is absolutely correct. It’s been four pages of what if, what if? The problem is you need money and your parents are the ones that have to give it to you. The bottom line is that no one else will. Most college funding comes from the Bank of Mom and Dad and you don’t seem to realize that. Also you have some really unrealistic goals.
I don’t know of any undergrad student, at a tough university, making $20,000 a year in tutoring, or any on-campus jobs and maintaining their grades. Studying in college is very different from studying in high school. Plus some of these colleges, you’ve selected, like the UC’s, are on quarter systems. Which means that you have 10 weeks to prove yourself. It’s very difficult for HS students to adjust to the quarter system. Fortunately, for California students, a number of them already are on quarter systems at their high schools.
You’re assuming that all the schools give a decent amount of merit and that’s just not true.
You are assuming that your parents are going to let you go out of state. How will you get across the country with no funds? The universities require health insurance that is not covered by financial aid. Most students just use their parents health coverage. Since you’re on shaky ground with your father, you might not have access to that. How will you pay for your health insurance on campus? You can’t register for classes if there is no record of your health coverage.
Also, your writing style, with the multiple errors that you’ve shown in misspellings and grammatical errors, indicate that your essays, when applying to these colleges, will not be strong. Focus on improving your writing.
Admissions officers will critique how well you write, and how well it flows. If your errors get in the way of your message, it will show them that you’re not ready for their college. They will have plenty of other students to select who do know how to write well.
You need to get off of College Confidential, focus on your coursework, and be nice to everyone, especially your parents.