<p>Does anyone have some useful anecdotes about how they got over a girl/guy who didn't like them back?</p>
<p>think about it like this.
99% of high school gfs/bfs break up either before they graduate from high school, or during college.</p>
<p>in all my relationships..i moved 2 times and 3rd we walked up to each other and said 'its not working out' at the same time (im still friends with him) my breakups went well so........</p>
<p>you can
A) not get over it.
B) get over it, immerse yourself in other things
C) get a rebound for a never-was relationship
personnaly, i'd just get over it. i always do that. they're just crushes anyway.</p>
<p>but don't try to make them jealous b/c it won't work. one guy i know likes this girl but she doesn't think of him that way, so he goes around and flirts with every girl he sees(especially those who aren't available) and he tries way to hard to impress her and it has not worked yet. in fact i think she's even more disgusted in him. Don't ever be that desperate. If they don't like you now, then whatever. its not the end of the world.</p>
<p>Ostonzi:
Is that 99% thing really true?</p>
<p>lol. if you think a guy likes you, but is too shy to ask you out. never try jealousy. you will basically kill any attempts to ever ask you out.</p>
<p>and nah. i doubt it. its probably true for marriage and after college thing. meaning. you will most likely never "end up" with your crush in high school.</p>
<p>yea...its sad.</p>
<p>Jealously definitely wouldn't work. Considering he's like in love with my best friend. But I guess that puts it is perspective a bit. I just wish I wasn't so like, obsessive.</p>
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Ostonzi:
Is that 99% thing really true?
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<p>It's probably higher than that.</p>
<p>Think about it. People break up more often then they stay together. (Of course, it would only work the other way if your perfect match happened to be the first person you got together with.) That doesn't leave too many people on the together-forever side when leaving high school...</p>
<p>Anyway, I always listened to music to cheer me up / convince me that the rest of the world feels my pain.</p>
<p>As, of course, it does.</p>
<p>Time. Honestly, it's really really hard to get over ex's that you really liked...</p>
<p>You can try to like someone else, but if you're too far gone, I guess that would be nigh impossible. In that case, all that will help is time. And maybe some distractions.</p>
<p>Give yourself a week to ride the wave of how you feel. Get as angry has possible, as mad as possible, as reflective as possible.... If you're a girl, splurge (or get a mom/girlfriend to splurge) on a manicure, go see movies out of the way of where you'd see him/her and his/her posse, go feed birds in the park.... Then, tell yourself you're over him/her. Maybe you are, maybe you aren't. Doesn't matter. Go on dates if someone offers (but don't pick your own rebound guy) and flirt if you feel like it. No moping after that first week, even if you feel like crap and a half.</p>
<p>Don't spend time with your exs right after you break up. If you want to stay friends, give it at least a couple of weeks. Otherwise, anger/jealousy/resentment/whatever will come up, I promise.</p>
<p>^I wish I hadn't talked to him in the days after he broke up with me...</p>
<p>lol. funny thing is these things will never happen to me. with the girl i like, if i break up with her (if we even get together (unlikely)) and make her really sad, her friends are too widespread and powerful, and i will probably suffer a social death.</p>
<p>and remain hated for the rest of my high school years. even if not by her.
if i ever made her that sad.</p>
<p>well. thats the probably outcome.</p>
<p>Yeah.</p>
<p>Look for other.</p>
<p>maybe... try to find out something about him that you don't like, and focus on it... then maybe you'll have an easier time getting over him. tell yourself "it wouldnt have worked out anyways!"
otherwise, yeah..... it'll all get better in time ;)</p>
<p>The weird thing is it's been 1 1/2 years. So this is pretty hardcore crush-wise.</p>
<p>1 1/2 years youve had a crush on him?
blah.</p>
<p>2 1/2 years for me. ive had a crush on her since the moment i met her. im serious too.</p>
<p>Yes, but the true hard-core question is: does she know you like her?</p>
<p>heh. idk. she probably suspects it. i remember one of her friends asked her is i liked her. never heard the answer though. :( and that was like 1 and a half years ago.</p>
<p>we always end up in awkward situations. there are random times where it looks like im gonna like ask her out. but all im doing is trying to walk to my locker or something. its hilariously awkward when i look back on it.</p>
<p>but. no. i've never told her. and i must be like socially blocked out or something, because she's one of those people that never seem to go out with ANYONE. it makes me nervous, like "is she going out with someone?" "is she waiting for someone?" "is she just not interested in anyone?"
"oh crap"</p>