Venting about Prom

Pre-College Topics High School Life
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<p>I'm sure no one wants to hear this, but I really have no other place to go, so here goes nothing.</p>

<p>For starters, I'm on the Prom Committee, so I planned the whole thing. I'm (for the most part, openly) gay. So of course, I'm every girl's backup date, without them thinking about how I might feel about this situation or that I might want to bring a guy to prom (though the idea of me getting a boyfriend, well, ever, is kind of laughable). This is back in February.</p>

<p>Flash forward to March. One of my best friends has decided we're going together. I'm excited because we have a great time together, right? So I don't care that every other girl gets their own date with their boyfriend or a friend or whatever.</p>

<p>About two weeks later, my friend IMs me while I'm away and tells me that she's not going to prom with me anymore because she wants to "get some ass" and I won't give that to her. So she's going with her ex-boyfriend instead. She tells me I can be angry all I want at her because she deserves it, blah, blah, blah. To tell you the truth, all I felt was sad and betrayed. I was kind of looking forward to prom with her.</p>

<p>So the next day I tried to talk about it, and then she tries to use the excuse that my mom doesn't know (and can't know, or she'd kick me out of the house) and that her mom would tell my mom, so we couldn't go together. She kept using other things to justify us not going together.</p>

<p>Ever since then, I decided I'm not going to prom, but I didn't really tell anyone. And like all my friends have been talking to me, really excited about it, and I was like...yeah, sure. So then, someone asks me in the cafeteria who I'm bringing to prom on Friday. I said I don't know and I went into the bathroom because I was really upset about it. I know this is just prom, but I wish I had someone to go with and I wish I wanted to go more than I do now, you know? </p>

<p>Now I actually have no one to ask, so I'd have to go alone and it'd be with a group of like 30 other people, all with dates. I just don't see the point in wasting the money on something I won't enjoy nor do I find special. There's some deeper rooted issues here, but I just kind of wish I wanted to go more than I do.</p>

<p>Then I told my friend (who dumped me) yesterday that I wasn't going to prom, period. She got really upset and started saying I was trying to get attention and starting drama for myself. I was ****ed that she said that since I haven't made a big deal about it or told anyone. Well, an hour later, I'm getting calls from the rest of the Prom Committee telling me that I'm being selfish because I'm making prom about me and not the whole grade.</p>

<p>Sorry for the rant, but I guess I just want to know if I'm justified in not going. I figured maybe a little outside perspective will help me think a little clearer.</p>

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<p>You’re justified in being ****ed off.</p>

<p>But find a way to go if you can. You’re definitely not being selfish in not going.</p>

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<p>Maybe you should go get some ass too? Just a suggestion.</p>

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<p>agree with ^.</p>

<p>your friend is being the selfish, drama queen.</p>

<p>go, have fun, and get some assss.</p>

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<p>Yeah, it is just prom. Just go with a group of friends that you know you’ll have fun with unless you know of a way to get some ass. Try and have fun. Its just one night</p>

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<p>don’t go…you shouldn’t feel pressured by stupid ppl..you aren’t being selfish..</p>

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<p>Prom kinda sucks. Go out and have fun however you want. It’s not selfish at all.</p>

<p>My gay friend and I are going to mock-prom in someone’s basement.</p>

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<p>Don’t go. You have every right to be upset. Prom isn’t about the whole grade – it’s about each seperate person’s experience. You won’t have fun, and it sounds like this girl you were supposed to go with is *****y anyway.</p>

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<p>I’m sorry; I’d go with you if you went to my school, lol. I don’t have a date either but I decided to go with some friends, are you sure you don’t have some more loner type friends that would like to go with you? If not, maybe you can go out and have fun with some out-of-school friends on the night of prom. And don’t let that selfish talk bother you; you’ll always get that when you have to work in teams for some big activity. My speech coach, who used to harass my about everything, used to always guilt me into apologizing for something I wasn’t really at fault for by being like “you’re selfish, you’re not thinking of the team”. When I finally quit, I found out the team members thought she was the selfish one, lol.</p>

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<p>That sucks! Some friend she is. :0 Who says they want to “get some ass”? Very tacky on her behalf.</p>

<p>I think you should still go. I’m sure there are still some single girls out there who might just want to go as a group of friends. Or maybe you can find somebody from another school to go with? Even if you’re gay, all girls love being invited to dances and dressing up.</p>

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<p>Well it was the opposite in my situation. My gay friend imposed himself as a “date” upon me. </p>

<p>Our “group” was set without me.
Basically I had no say in the whole thing.
BUT I just ditched that group when I got to prom and hung with my better BFFs.</p>

<p>It was fun, just not the time I spent with him/his group.
Just do what you want. Go with a group of singles.
Ditch your group, it’ll end up better for you in the long run.</p>

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<p>I’m sorry that is supper sucky.</p>