<p>So I am currently... actually correction. I WAS a student at Stony up until last semester. </p>
<p>I had a really bad start off the first semester in my freshman yr and ever since then I've been struggling to bring my GPA up above a 2.0.</p>
<p>Lo-and-behold I was suspended from the school with a cumulative of 1.92.</p>
<p>To make matters worse, my parents are extremely anal and have this way of making you feel like such a failure because "they obviously did something wrong with the way they raised you." aka guilt trip to the max and increased sense of self-loathing. Thus I've been putting off telling them that I've been kicked out... til last night.</p>
<p>Did NOT go well. and I am very depressed. clinically i think.</p>
<p>Sorry that this is so long. Felt you guys need the details.</p>
<p>Then of course while i tell them that i was going to try to transfer, i find out today that all the transfer deadlines for almost every other school was over nearly 4 months ago.</p>
<p>great.</p>
<p>It seems like i have no options but to take the semester off. but then this ties the summer in as well. so that's nearly a year of no school. not a definition in my parents vocabulary.</p>
<p>WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?</p>
<p>i was thinking that maybe i'd volunteer but they definitely won't pay thousands of dollars for me to go over seas when they thought a couple thousand for school was hard enough as it was.</p>
<p>They wont like the idea of work either. it's been discussed before... unfortunately.
It seems like there are no options left for me but i'd love a fresh idea if there are any available!
help. please. I'd really appreciate it!
Thanks.</p>
<p>You need to take control of your life. You cannot depend on your parents to make decisions for you. It is your life. Get a job while you evaluate which school you want to transfer into. Take some courses at a community college. You may be able to get college credits for some of the courses.</p>
<p>You are old enough to start taking responsibility for your life. Work hard, get help from your teachers in the future, find a mentor, and never get less than a B again. It is in your hands.</p>
<p>because i took the hardest course load first semester and its because i did so badly in those classes, its been dragging my entire gpa down</p>
<p>you’re right in a way. I do depend on my parents but mainly financially and i cant really make decisions on my own without consulting them. I’ve tried and last night has taught me that that was a bad idea. </p>
<p>i will be getting a job since there seems to be no other option but i had a job before and my parents have made me quit. even some of the other community colleges i’ve been looking at have passed deadlines.</p>
<p>mentors=money and just because i work hard doesn’t necessarily mean an automatic A. </p>
<p>you basically gave me general advice given to all students but thanks anyway.</p>
<p>I’m a parent. You have to lay out every option available to you right now - ones that are feasible. Take the one which will get you where you need to go and is most doable. If it’s going to community college - so be it (many community colleges you can register for very late, though obviously too late for winter now) - take summer classes there and then enroll for fall. If your parents are supporting you financially - at least go to them with a plan. Otherwise be prepared to take out your own student loans, get a part time job, move out on your own and become more independent. If you were my kid I wouldn’t be happy either, but I’d expect her to come to me with a plan on how she was going to correct her predicament she got herself into. Including starting to pay some of her own tuition. Sound harsh? maybe, but you’re an adult now.</p>
<p>Hello, I am also a freshman at Stony Brook. While it’s true that you’re in a bad situation and will go without school for a semester, it’s a good opportunity for you to find a job and become more independent. Over the summer, you can continue your education at a community college and pursue an associates degree. Be sure to take classes that you know you can succeed in. For example, if you’re not good at programming …avoid those classes. And it also helps to use Rate my professors. From there, you can head down many avenues. </p>
<p>Since you liked my general advice but did not think it was enough, I will give you some very specific advice. It is up to you whether you follow it:</p>
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<li><p>Go to your local library and get an audio program by Zig Ziglar. It will do you a ton of good.</p></li>
<li><p>You do not need to pay for mentors. I have never paid for one. Here’s how it works. Make a list of five people (college teachers). Call them and say you need advice. You will be surprised at how many people are willing to help others without expecting anything in return. And remember the worst they can say is no. Go to them and lay out your predicament. Ask for suggestions. Send an email of thanks and ask if you could come back to them. If any of them agrees, you have your mentor.</p></li>
<li><p>Go to Youtube and do a search for “the last lecture” by Randy Pausch. Watch it. You will learn many things including that you have to dream and then go for them. Working hard will not always get you good grades but by NOT working hard you will never get them.</p></li>
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<p>With a sub 2.0 GPA, transferring is not a realistic plan. </p>
<p>It’s time for you to take responsibility for your life. While you figure out an alternative plan for your future, get out there and find a job. </p>
<p>With a sub 2.0 GPA over the course of a couple of semesters, perhaps college is not a good fit for you. Consider learning a trade. </p>
<p>If you’re determined with continuing college, start taking classes at your local community college this summer. Take classes part-time and work at a job the rest of the time. </p>
<p>Life is a journey and it can take many different directions over the course of time. Learn something new from each path and let that guide you around the next corner.</p>