<p>I'm having a hard time even writing this post even though I don't have all the decisions yet. </p>
<p>Our S applied to 8 schools and so far has been rejected by 4 of them. </p>
<p>I am surprised by the rejection from NMH and The Hill, not surprised by Exeter and SPS. My big worry is that the remainders will all follow suit. Deerfield, Loomis, Governors and Hotchkiss.</p>
<p>I can't help but wonder how much of this decision is based on our need of FA.</p>
<p>Ok, off to cry in my coffee cup and figure out how to break the news when he comes home from school.</p>
<p>I found out at 12:02 a.m. that my son was waitlisted for Blair. I feel just as you do. We're still waitin on Peddie and Lawrenceville without much hope. My son is asleep with 102 fever, and I cry at the thought of breaking the news to him. As I wrote in another post, the door has closed, I (we) now need to see through the tears and find the window th has been left open. It's out there somewhere.</p>
<p>We've now heard from Exeter-No, and Lawrenceville-Waitlist. The Lawrenceville waitlist letter says that the waitlist is long and not to be hopeful. How depressing. We have a significant FA need too. I wasn't surprised at Exeter, but I'm a little surprised at Lawrenceville. I'm losing hope rapidly and hating this day. Now I really wish that we'd just get all the rejection over with in one day. Snail mail might just kill me.</p>
<p>Scotland, I started a new post because I truly think it would be helpful for FA folks who need help with >50% tuition. I think it will help if we can get a grip on how much the FA need played into the decision. I would imagine the schools will want to keep saying that they have X% receiving aid, but they mgiht not be quite as willing to help those with greater need. Hang in there.</p>
<p>i am feeling the same for my son. Got rejection from(exeter, lawer, peddie) with ssat 93, great transcript and ECS, no FA, waiting for Andover and Groton and not at all positive.I don't know how will I share this with my son when he comes back home from school. I wish there was the way to know the reason of rejection</p>
<p>I keep rereading the rejection letters just in case they have changed! I think I'm worse off with this than my son is, scratch that we're probably the same he's just better at hiding the hurt.</p>
<p>Hey Scotland - I think the parents definitely take it harder than the kids. I had a daughter rejected across the board two years ago and I still feel it. While she has happily moved on.</p>
<p>Please hang in there Scotland. Tomorrow will probably be a huge delivery day for many schools; not all use overnight deliveries. I'm really pulling for you both. All of your remaining choices are really great schools!</p>
<p>I just want to share an experience my step son had when applying to BS. First off, they were deceptively welcoming at interviews. This child needed a lot of FA (family contribution was $19000). School #1 was the first choice and waitlisted S. His mother called and learned that:
1) they were surprised to learn it was his first choice;
2) they would call back when someone declined an acceptance that freed up FA monies;
3) they asked that S write a letter updating with activities and grades and re-affirming this school was first choice.</p>
<p>School #2 accepted S with open arms but this was not even on his radar. They offered some FA. He went to their Admitted Students' Day and had a wonderful time and really wanted to go there.</p>
<p>School #3 waitlisted. Their Admissions Office told mom that chances were slim. This is a school in Delaware that had been very, very encouraging at interviews. Odd.</p>
<p>So, what happened was, Stepson decided to go to School 2, which he had never thought of attending, and by the time School #1 offered admission and FA, Step son had already decided to go elsewhere.</p>
<p>School #2 was Mercersburg, by the way, and they could not have been nicer or more understanding. </p>
<p>The bottom line is, when your kid gets to the Admitted Students' festivities, they will probably like the school and if it is their only choice, well, a lot of stuff is circumvented.</p>
<p>So keep in contact with the schools, especially around the time deposits are due, and make sure that they know your son or daughter would love to attend.</p>
<p>I would tell the kid that a lot of factors go into selection, esp finances, and that if nothing frees up, then he can apply for 10th grade. He can make himself a more attractive candidate in the meantime.</p>
<p>My son was applying for a postgraduate year~but Linda, your advice is good for others who have children who can apply again next year. My son was waitlisted at his top choice, accepted (with FA) into what WAS his second choice, and is still waiting to hear from 2 others, but I am certain they are both rejections, his friend applied to one of them and already received his acceptance letter. For reasons I cannot go into, his second choice is no longer a viable option, so we are really at a loss as to what he is going to do next year. As HutHut said, I, too, am waiting to find the window that is open......</p>
<p>I'm not Linda, but to one way to make your kid more attractive is to contact the schools he/she was rejected from and ask them why he was rejected and then work on that. You need to wait until things are not quite as hectic for them but for the most part if you ask the right questions the schools will be very candid.</p>
<p>My child received an acceptance letter from one school with no mention of financial aid. Do I need to call the school to find out? Today she got 3 rejections and a waitlist at her last choice...ouch! One school left, but we aren't hopeful. Pardon my french, but this sucks. I really hope the first school has aid. Otherwise, she is going to be truly brokenhearted.</p>