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<blockquote> <p>her parents had strongly disliked one of the colleges she applied to >></p> </blockquote>
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<p>In the OP, the poster said the family would have vetoed the college because they strongly disliked it. I say...if you plan to do this, exercise your veto power before the applications are sent.</p>
<p>With regard to finances...I recommend that families talk to their kids about financial criteria BEFORE the applications are sent. Kids need to know what the parents will and won't do and I feel this should be done before the applications are sent as well. That way the student will know up front that when the acceptances come in, there are going to be financial considerations as well.</p>