<p>I have a slightly different take on this. In our family, we as parents assume the right to veto a college during the process of building a list. But once the list is set, we have a voice, but not a veto. The choice is up to the kid. I think that, unless financial aid is an issue, it’s unfair to allow a kid to apply to a college, then say no, you can’t go there. Better to make the decision beforehand that a particular college is off the table.</p>